No Sex Before Marriage

We will both be virgins on the day of our wedding. Good for you guys. It's been really good for us so far. It helps us really know each other and not base our relationship off of our sexual feelings for each other (not that we aren't looking forward to that aspect).

Erin Wood, unless there's a communication problem, am I to understand that you talk about your sex life with your male friends?

If that's the case, you know what you're doing.

Yes! My FH and I are waiting. It's for religious reasons and was my decision. It's hard as heck, but I believe it'll be worth the wait. Glad to see we aren't the only ones.

Of course I do @centerpiece. My best friends are all guys. We talk about everything that a girlfriend would talk about. Friends are friends. Why does them being male make it any different?

Really It is everyone's personal choice .. but my FH and I feel that it is important to wait until marriage . We have never done anything more then kiss on the lips and hold hands ! It's hard because our feelings for each other are so strong but it's possible on our wedding night we will figure it out together lol

Also, for those who don't know Fornication is having sex before marriage .

Adultery is being married and having sex with someone other than your spouse.

I don't know...maybe because they have a penis and testicles, and, if they're young, healthy, heterosexual men, those body parts are aroused by the mere sound of a woman's voice describing what happens in her bed...just a guess, but if you and your FH are cool with the equality thing when it comes to talking about sexual behavior, go right ahead and get an education.

@Emsker, *sexual feelings* lol. I find that naively cutesy. If I didn't know my fh on all levels besides *sexual feelings* then marriage wouldn't be an option.

FH and I are waiting (we are both virgins). There's nothing wrong with waiting. It really comes down to what you want. Every couple is different.

Aisha and Tiffany, of course, there's nothing wrong with waiting. That's a decision that is completely up to the both of you. Nobody is on a campaign to eradicate all hymens prior to the vows. Stay true to yourselves, if that something that's important to you, and honestly, you don't have to explain your sexual choices to anyone. It's between you and him. It has nothing to do with us.

Hi Charlene. I most sincerely wanted to let you know that the night of your wedding will be most exhausting. Please do not plan/force any kind of intimacy the night of.

IMO honeymoons planned for days/weeks/months after the actual wedding date are most enjoyable.

Not waiting can't keep my hands off of FH he's one hot ass man lol!

"What if you blow it" I love that!!! Also thinks it's weird you are discussing things like that but to each their own I guess and for the one telling her male best friends that stuff yeah strange! I'm all for having friends of the opposite sex my best friend is a man and fh is a woman people we have been friends with for a very long time but I draw the line at talking about our sex life.

I think she's referring to them being divorced and their former spouses not being deceased so your next marriage is now and forever adultery until the original spouse is dead.

Hey if you want to wait good for you I guess. It really is a personal choice for you guys, I do not have enough self control for that and I get grumpy if I don't get the D on a fairly regular basis so we are not waiting

I know couples that abstained from sex before marriage, none of them were virgins. Primarily due to religious reasons. Different religions preach chastity and abstinence. While I haven't it done myself, I respect it as I grew up in church and that was preached to us. I think this is one of those topics that can fall under "do you, boo" or in this case "not do you, boo." But either way, I get it.

First of all, good luck with your decision to wait!! (not sarcastic)... FH and I are definitely NOT waiting, quite the oposite actually, since we're trying to get pregnant, although I'm not sure we could even if we weren't trying

Centerpiece- I'm dying at "ERADICATE ALL HYMENS".

I honestly have to agree with Erin Wood that discussing sex with your friends is fine regardless of their gender. Men should be able to control their raging erections in order to be a supportive friend. If they can't, you're friends with the wrong kind of dude.

Nope nope nope! I am an extreme type A personality so I'm always stressed about something and I deal with high anxiety, so if I don't have a way to release some of that then I become a raging bitch. And I'm also not putting high expectations on my wedding night, we both are used to going to bed at like 9:30 every night so we'll be dead tired

It's not Adultery.

It's Fornication.

for·ni·ca·tion

noun: fornication; plural noun: fornications

sexual intercourse between people not married to each other.

King James Bible

1 Corinthians 6:18

"Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body."

1 Corinthians 7:1-2

" :it is good for a man not to touch a woman. Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband."

1 Thessalonians 4:3-5, 7

"For this is the will of God, even your sanctification, that ye should abstain from fornication:

That every one of you should know how to possess his vessel in sanctification and honor;

Not in the lust of concupiscence, even as the Gentiles which know not God:

For God hath not called us unto uncleanness, but unto holiness."

@centerpiece/ we are all late 30's early 40's and are all married. We've all been friends for 20 years. It's not a big deal.

@OP- It's true you might be exhausted on the night but whether it happens that night or the next morning is irrelevant. It'll be special because you are married and the commitment to abstaining is special.

Yes, my fiance' and I are doing the same. This is our second marriage to each other. Although I was a church girl, we didn't wait the first time. Now this time, with his new dedication to God, we just automatically knew we would wait. We've been dating since May 2015!