No Ring, No Bring!

I gave everyone one a plus one and invited children. We are only invited our close friends and immediate family. None of my single friends used their plus ones.

So effing rude. This happened to me (FH got invited to a wedding and it specifically said "no guest") We were already living together at the time and it pissed me off so bad. Needless to say, he is not friends with that couple any longer.

Bethie, what?! I can't believe they actually put "no guest" in writing. Ew.

So rude. My fiance and I lived together for 9 years before we got engaged. I can't imagine anyone excluding one of us as an SO from a wedding invitiation. It would be crazy.

Whoa, "no guest" in writing? Yikes! Last year FH was invited to a wedding without me, normally I would be offended but we had 10 weddings last year so I was more relieved that I wouldn't have to go They didn't give plus ones to anyone but one of the groomsmen was so pissed he just called the groom and told him he was bringing his girlfriend!

That doesn't seem fair to people who are in a couple and just not engaged/married. All couples are getting an invite, and I'm sending plus ones to most of the other guests - space dependent.

So rude. I was with FH for over a year and already living with him when my cousin sent out her wedding invitations, and she didn't invite him. But she invited my brother's boyfriend and told me it's because she considered my brother's bf family. Ummmm ok. I'm not a fan of other people determining whether or not my relationship is legitimate.

That's horrible. My husband and I were attached at the hips immediately after our first date - we were living together within 4 months. We didn't get engaged for 3 years, so that would have been awkward had one of us been invited like that.

If you had a significant other, that person was invited. If not and I had room, I let them bring a date.

Yeah, I'm with you, OP-- a lot of people are in VERY committed relationships without marriage these days. I dated DH for just under 10 years before we married. Neither one of us ever attended a wedding without the other. Personally, for my wedding, we didn't even meet our minimum plate count, so we offered plus ones to anyone and everyone.

I extended a plus one to anyone I knew was in a relationship, whether married or dating. Most of the single people that were invited knew everyone that was at the wedding and if I wasn't aware that person was seeing someone I gave them the plus one as well.

Were doing a plus one for all of our invites. My FH and I were together for almost 3 years before we got engaged and I wouldn't dream of going to a wedding without him.

No. No way. Living together as a cut off is rude too. It's no one's place to judge another's relationship. I would have added my husband to an invite if he wasn't on it before we got engaged, or I would decline. We dated for nearly 4 years and lived together 3 of those before we got engaged! I would definitely not go without him!

My first very large wedding it was plus one for all the singles. This time around it its very very tiny and everyone knows eachother so if you are single and not in a relationship, its just them. We want a very small wedding.

That's insanely rude. I also was in a very long term relationship (5 years) before getting engaged. I would be offended. We are doing married, engaged and serious relationship. This really only leave us with a handful of people (all currently single) not getting plus ones, but they all know others at the wedding.

Rude. Any committed couple should be treated as a social unit regardless of if they have chosen to get engaged or live together. I know people in very committed relationships that don't live together or haven't gotten engaged yet for a variety of reasons.

We personally invited all our guests as couples, and gave any single guest a plus one.

I think it's harsh. I believe every adult should be afforded the opportunity to have an escort at any large, formal, social event. I would have no interest in who a guest might want to bring or how serious they were. In my world, they get an escort -- whether it's the neighbor, a friend, a sex partner, or a live in partner. I know not everyone agrees with me. So be it.

Just plan rude!

(not like age matters but) I am 30 and most of the people we invited are married or have been in a relationship for over a year. My Uncle has been with his "lady" for 10 years now. I consider her my Aunt although they aren't married. Only ~10 people are single or are in a new relationship and we are giving them a plus one. It will be their choice if they want to bring someone or not. One of my bridesmaids laughed when her STD said "and guest" because she is single. Who knows, she may find someone between now and the wedding!

I guess if you wanted to do that same rule, you could technically invite both unmarried people separately? haha. I feel like there are always exceptions to every rule. That rule seems a bit harsh to me.

Rude, rude, rude. There are plenty of couples out there who are committed to each other without being engaged or married. Sounds very judgmental.

My sister and her boyfriend have kids, aren't marrried. My mother and her boyfriend are together for almost 20 years, aren't marrried. Except four couples all of our friends aren't marrried (yet). One of them does has his last name plus all the legal benefits of a marriage and three children together but aren't married and without ring. It would be totally inappropriate and extremely extremely rude for us to even think about this!