No Ring, No Bring!

We gave out blanket plus ones to those 18 and over. I was with FH for almost 4 years before we got engaged, and I know he wouldn't have gone without me if he'd been the only one invited. I also don't feel it's my job to judge how serious another couple's relationships is.

I wonder how many friends she will have after her wedding.

Pretty much everyone got a plus one except for a few teens.

I think that's really rude. Just thinking of an example, my aunt has been with her man-friend for 20-something years, But they are not married. He's my uncle in all but name. No invite for him? Yikes.

And I echo your comment, I was with my FH 5 years before we got engaged. I went to many many wedding with him before that.

We're allowing everyone a plus one. We made up for it by not allowing children. Anyone who knows us well enough knows we're not fans of the little ones.

Once again...using a cute poem to describe something rude does not make it less rude.

Definitely too harsh. Its 2015, not everyone is rushing to marry even if they are in a serious relationship.

Married, engaged, or living together was our rule.

I am doing plus ones for everyone unless they have never had a SO in the time that I have known them.

My mom and step-dad are not married but have been together for over 20 years. If I followed that rule, my step-dad would not be invited to my wedding. That would be ridiculous!!

We are basically doing plus ones for anyone in a committed relationship. So basically we just aren't allowing people to bring a random guest just for the hell of it. With the exception of one GM who is single. But considering he is in the wedding party I feel that the least we can do is allow him to bring someone if he chooses.

I think that's a pretty harsh rule. Like a lot of people have pointed out, there are some long term couples who just haven't gotten married. It doesn't change the fact that their relationship exists. If either my husband or I had been invited to a wedding that way before we were engaged we would not have gone. I don't understand people who have no desire to meet their supposedly dear friends significant others.

We did plus ones for everyone who had a significant other at the time invitations went out. However, we named them on the invite since it isn't that hard to do some quick Facebook stalking. Of the single people left after that, even those with a guest option did not bring someone.

I'm using the married, engaged, or living together rule. I actually can't think of anyone who is invited and has a significant other who doesn't meet that rule.

@Staci that's exactly what I thought! Just because it rhymes doesn't mean it's not rude...

We're doing plus 1 for everybody, even if they are not currently in a relationship. Most people I know are in relationships, but not many of them are married or engaged. My MoH and her boyfriend are together close to ten years and they don't really plan on getting married soon.

WOW. That's rude.

I also gave to everyone basically 14+ a plus one. I just don't think it's my place to judge who's serious. One of my friends only gave plus ones to people in a facebook relationship. It was craziness. I think weddings are more fun with a date, even if they're just a friend of yours so it was a no brainer for me.

It's rude.

I understand that you have to draw the line somewhere.... If I was with my boyfriend for many years and he wasn't invited, I would simply decline. I would *hope* that anyone I was close to would know him well and would invite him too (we were always invited as each others guests, prior to "the ring", because we made an effort to get to know each others friends so well!) But if it was a more distant relative or friend that didn't invite him, I'd gladly RSVP as a No and save the time and money... I wouldn't get upset about it!

If a couple is living together but not engaged/married, I really don't think it's appropriate to NOT invite both. Its like, who would even say to their S/O "Hey baby, I'm going to use the money we spend on rent to attend this wedding you're not invited too! Order some take-out and see you later" LOL yeah, not cool

Anyone with a significant other got the invite addressed to them and the SO. For truly single people, almost all of them would know a lot of other guests, so we only gave plus ones to the few people who wouldn't know many people.

Blanket plus ones for everyone. If my single friends want to bring a date, then that's fine by me.

We gave everyone a guest, whether they were in a relationship or not. So far, everyone not in a relationship is not bringing anyone (no one just bringing friends because they got a guest) which is what we were hoping for. I'm kind of glad, because the non-signifcant other guests accounted for about 30 people on our guestlist and hopefully this brings us down to near 150 for a final count!

I do think that everyone in a serious relationship should be allowed to bring their SO. FH and I were together for 8 years before we got engaged, and if he weren't allowed to bring me as a guest to a wedding I would be offended.