No Ring, No Bring!

I almost have the same rule for our invites. If we don't personally know your significant other, no invite. Not that you necessarily have to be married, we just have to know them pretty well. That way a plus one that we barely know doesn't get a place at our wedding over someone we do know

Plus one will sit better with guests than "no ring, no bring."

Best,

Carmen

Ouch. I wouldnt have taken.that very lightly. Ive been with my FH for 11 years now, so they would.have had 1 less guest.

I did plus one for everybody that's not already married. I think it's extremely rude. I'm having most of my guest come from out of state and I know a lot of them wouldn't come if they couldn't bring their S/O's. My sister is law lives with her boyfriend and I actually invited his parents because they live near me.

While I would never be thrilled to hear something like that, I also would not chastise the bride for making that decision (However, I do believe writing "and no guest" and not inviting a spouse IS incredibly rude).

I had an interesting thing happen to me. I was living with FH at the time (we had been living together for 2 years, dating for 4, and were 2 months away from getting engaged) and I was invited to a wedding alone. The bride was a friend from college and while we had been keeping in touch, we certainly weren't best friends. I was a little taken aback by it at the time, but the more I think about it, the "less offensive" it seems. She comes from an incredibly large family and didn't have extra space (or probably money) for plus 1's.

I find it surprising that so many women on this forum are giving blanket plus 1's (even if it is just to everyone in a relationship). If I did that, the number of people invited to my wedding would probably be close to 200, which is a number my venue cannot hold and a number I can't afford to pay for. My fiance and I have agreed we need to draw the line somewhere, but we're not exactly sure where yet. However, I would hate for people to think that this is how I am "defining" the seriousness of someone's relationship.

I think a bride choosing a policy and sticking with it should be respected. No, you may not like it, but a) at least she's consistent and b) her decision is probably financially motivated, I seriously doubt this woman thinks her friends in relationships are any less serious than her own.

We didn't want random guests there that we didn't know, esp since it's a super small wedding (35 people) so we didn't give +1s to single guests. Everyone there knows at least a few other people so no problem on being alone. If they are in a couple that person is of course invited though and I think it's pretty bad to say they have to have a ring to get to come. FH and I were together for a long time before we got engaged and if he had been invited to a wedding without me or I without him we wouldn't have gone, no matter whose it was.

The rhyme is rude. however... our situation is much like reggie described above.

no randoms. married, engaged or people with SO who we have met got a plus one.

the rest of our single friends know each other, different circles etc. we didnt feel it was necessary to give them plus ones to bring a random date because its not like they'll be alone talking to no one; we also couldnt afford to grow the guestlist

I think its whatever the couple feels comfortable doing.

Our general rule is that everyone who is in a committed relationship (married, engaged, live-in, together 1+ year) gets a plus one. Additionally, if both my fiancee and I have met the significant other, they get a plus one. We've been to plenty of weddings together where some couples did not receive a plus one and you could cut the awkwardness with a knife. Similarly, we've been invited to weddings without having received a plus one, and have sent our regrets in - neither of us is particularly enthusiastic about traveling for a wedding without the other.

For my single friends i asked them privately if they'd like a plus one, everyone else got a plus one as well, im pretty easy going with it just wanted to make sure i had room for everyone and see if i had extra spots available if people were going sans date

I'm not sure if the slogan they are using or the actual practice they are using is more rude.

It simply amazes me how many people give asinine 'serious' relationship tests - time together, married/unmarried, living together, etc. There are plenty of women on this board who have been together less than 2 years, or don't live together, hell there have been women who aren't engaged just yet. How can you possibly ask someone to celebrate your relationship while disregarding theirs. rude.

I would chastise the bride. That's just downright rude. Not all couples want/will marry.

Edit: "I seriously doubt this woman thinks her friends in relationships are any less serious than her own.".

That's exactly what she's thinking.

It sounds kind of arbitrary. How did marriage become the deciding factor on a guest' worthiness? Hopefully she doesn't have any gay friends who are not yet married because of long term legal restrictions in their region. Doesn't that kind of show how silly that is as a marker? What about those couples considered married by regional laws due to length of time spent together. Just kind of ridiculous

Damn. Way harsh, Tye. We made sure to give people in a dedicated relationship a plus one, and in one case bc our friend isn't married (but dating the guy for a year) we invited him since she doesn't know many ppl at the wedding

I think this is really rude. I was with FH for just over 3 years before we got engaged and his best man was with his own FW for about 10 years before they got engaged. I think your friend should step back and think how she'd feel if she was in this position. Just because there isn't a ring doesn't mean there isn't enough commitment to be considered a guest. It seems disrespectful.

Rude. If someone decided not to invite my SO because we weren't married or living together I would decline. Why are you inviting me to an event celebrating your relationship if you have no respect for mine?