No reply to wedding invitation!

Is your wedding in October 2024? Guests typically are accustomed to paper invitations sent 6-8 weeks before the event. Your immediate RSVP request may not be possible with people's work and personal schedules. Just be patient.

Formal paper invitations should be sent out 6-8 weeks prior to the event (or up to 8-10 weeks for a destination wedding), with the directions of how to RSVP and the deadline by which they need to respond (the RSVP deadline is typically 2-3 weeks prior to the wedding).

If you haven't sent out invites yet, and haven't reached the RSVP deadline, then I wouldn't worry about it. And I certainly wouldn't uninvite someone for not thanking you for an RSVP link. They don't owe you a thank you. This is an event you are throwing in your own honor - you owe them a thank you for attending.

You're way early for people to be able to commit to an event that is happening in 7 months. What is your RSVP deadline date?

First, invites should be a physical paper that is mailed to your guests with all information about the wedding. Second, it's way too early to expect RSVPs for a wedding that is still six months away. Invites typically aren't sent until 6-8 weeks prior to the weddibg. Guests aren't going to know their schedule this far in advance.

While many places such as Reddit etc push the digital invitations, they really don’t work for most people because they are very informal so are not taken seriously as a formal event, and they are not etiquette compliant. Not everyone is tech savvy, even among the younger crowd despite popular belief. It’s not courteous to get angry at loved ones who don’t use technology. The etiquette of sending verbal save the dates at 6-12 months before the wedding, with physical invites sent at 6-8 weeks and physical replies due at 4 weeks exists for a reason. No one can commit to an event before 4 weeks even with the best of intentions. It’s not polite, kind or courteous to get angry and resentful because other people don’t operate the same way that you do. Cutting off relationships and uninviting people as a result of your misplaced anger only reflects badly on you.

View Quoted Comment Sorry guys my wedding is in July 27th. Most of the people I sent the link rsvp straightaway except for one family who is my aunt and her daughters. They didn't even congratulate me when I announced my engagement and sent a cold response to the message that has been sent to the link. I'm planning to give them a deadline two weeks before the wedding if they don't reply, I'm thinking of not adding them to the guest list. Am I doing the right thing? It annoys me that this is such an easy thing to do but also they have got personal agenda with me and my family so they are acting like my wedding is not that important arghhh

View Quoted Comment 2 weeks is cutting it extremely close because that is when caterers need the final headcount, when RSVPs are due at 4 weeks. Uninviting anyone for reasons that don’t apply to them being abusive, violent, homophobic, racist, etc is not a good look on you and you need to be prepared for permanent consequences of the choices you make if you do this. Many people don’t acknowledge engagement announcements and that doesn’t make them bad people or heartless. They just place importance on different events. Revisit your relationships and friendships and decide if you like these people because it sounds like you are resentful for other unrelated reasons, and are possibly inviting them out of obligation rather than genuinely wanting them in attendance. Most people don’t have ulterior motives to be unkind, so unless there is a history of them blatantly ignoring you, then the negativity towards them is not necessary.

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If you don't receive an RSVP by the deadline (which is usually about 4 weeks before the wedding), then it's up to you to contact them for a response. If you still don't hear then I would let them know that you're putting them down as a "no". That's kind of part of your job as the host of the wedding.

PPs are correct. It was too early to have sent out invitations yet let alone expect replies. Many unavoidable conflicts are simply not known months in advance. IMO people interpreted your message as informational, and your greeting as a pleasantry, not something that required a reply.


I didn’t face this issue since we mailed our invitations and set an RSVP date a month out. At that point we individually contacted anyone we hadn’t heard from. I don’t understand how or why you would uninvite someone who already received an invitation. If they have an agenda with you then chances are they will eventually send regrets though you may have to call to confirm they are a “no.”