No kids at wedding- what age, etc.

Were doing no kids. Invites will be specifically addressed by full name to those whom are invited.

We're have a cutoff age, so anyone who is 12 and older we're okay with (there's two families with two sets of boys that are coming...that's it.) We were really just trying to avoid having little little ones at our wedding who aren't quite at the age where they can handle hanging out in a chair for 30 minutes without a fuss. Although, FMIL told me this weekend that her cousin, who we invited her and her husband, was going to bring her toddler without telling us...um what?? She ended up RSVPing no, but still.

We're having a child friendly wedding.

My personal view on the matter is this: I want my family and friends with me on my wedding day, and my family includes children. Some of my friends and I are super close like family, and their kids are like nieces and nephews to me. As it is, my own nieces and nephews can't come due to missing school and the cost of flying from Chicago. (I'm lucky my sister is coming, they are that broke), so I'm thrilled that my goddaughter and my friends' children will be there.

while I personally don't understand child free weddings (just my opinion, I would certainly never condemn anyone for having a child free day), its all up to you guys, and what you really want. If you prefer to have no kids under 10, 15, 18, it is your wedding and your decision.

ETA: Our wedding is also in the afternoon, and at a park, which I consider child friendly. I might change my mind if we were having a black tie affair.

We are having 10 kids our two daughters and our nieces and nephews on each side that's it. I did tell all our sister/brother in-laws that they don't have to bring them but to know they were invited cause I know some people see it as a night out and its only our girls in the wedding out of all of them. Your wedding you do what will make you and your FH happy!

We went childfree, but we provided a sitter on site. One of my cousins had a young child she would not want to be separated from, and we had his nephew as the ring bearer who was done with acting like a grown up about midway through the reception - that gave him somewhere to go hang out.

Our venue was at a bed and breakfast, and the owner offered us her teenage daughter, so we offered this to our guests. I think we paid her $8 / hr, though the owner didn't ask us to. (It's a family run business.)

Connecting trusted sitters with OOT guests might be a reasonable accommodation - at least that says "We didn't invite your kids, but we recognize you have them, and are trying to make life easier on you."

We originally said no kids at the wedding which was mainly a budget thing. That of course changed as we will now be having FW's nieces as a part of the BP. Her oldest niece is 12 and youngest is 3. We are going to have a babysitter for the after party so the kids may actually be picked up by the babysitter before the end of the reception depending on how the youngest is.

We had 4 kids total at the wedding. 2 were our RB and FG and 2 were cousins. They were great, and RB & FG left shortly after the dancing started. We didn't have any objections

The only children at ours will be my two nephews (aged 4 & ring bearers), & the grooms children (aged 9 & 12). Granted, there aren't a lot of children in the family to begin with, but after observing how my cousin's son & step-son behaved at her wedding, we did not want them at ours. Harsh, maybe, but it's how we feel & since we are paying for everything, we get to set the rules.

Ours just happens to work out that we are having no children under 7 come to ours... We are only inviting siblings, parents, grandparents and very close friends... So no cousins/ their children. Ours is a small wedding and I didn't want a ton of cousins that I haven't seen or spoken to in years, so that really helped with limiting young children. Not sure if you are able to do something like that or not. It'll really depend on who you most value being there-- whether that means that children will follow, or not.

My FH's best friend got married and specifically put a note about no children at wedding on their invite-- but people still brought their children anyway. Just FYI.

If you want to have no kids at your wedding, that's perfectly acceptable (don't write this on the invitation as it's rude to point out who isn't invited).

If you want to have a no-kid wedding with the exception of immediate family, that's also perfectly acceptable.

HOWEVER, if you have kids in your wedding party, they should be invited to the reception and none of this "they leave after dinner" nonsense. That's very rude because you're essentially saying the parents have to leave too. If they're invited, they should get to stay until the parents leave.

As for cut-offs, I've seen people do an age cut-off of 10 and I've seen others do an age cut-off of 18. It's really up to you. Now keep in mind that if you invite one kid in a family, his/her siblings have to be invited too. You can't split up families. That goes against proper etiquette.

21 and older only.