No kids at wedding- what age, etc.

It would be 18 kids- ranging from one to 11 years old.

It just seems like it would be chaotic

We didn't have any kids at our wedding. Our FG and RB (ages 3 and 6) left during the cocktail hour. The only "kid" at the reception was a family friend's daughter, who just graduated from high school.

The only kid we are inviting to the wedding is my 11 year old half sister who is in yhe wedding party. Two of my aunts spent months trying to guilt trip me into inviting my aunts grandchildren. It's your wedding, it's your rules for the guest list.

Our wedding will be 18+ only.

We are inviting 14 and up, except for the ring bearer and flower girl. They are invited to the reception, but parents are choosing to send them home with a nanny after ceremony, so they can enjoy the reception!

We're having an adult only ceremony and reception and cut the age at 25.

Take into account everything else with your wedding--is travel required? If so its harder for parents to leave kids at home. Is there anyone who you can't imagine not being there who has kids and would be affected? Some people also opt for on-site babysitting too. And know that you should do what you'd like, but you will get flack from some for it.

We didn't say anything like "no kids no kids ".., which I think is rude.

But we only invited family kids. And no "friends' kids". , even though we ended up having some non invited kids show up.

Bc we are having essentially a backyard wedding at a huge mansion our bridal party is staying in we will have a sitter on site watching the kids. Luckily no one we are inviting have kids 6-14 those are the ages that just get bored at weddings and really dont want to be there. A number of guest have kids under 6 & under and thats whose the sitter is for. And we figure 14 and up can stay home alone. But we dont knw many ppl with kids that age either. We have 5 kids in the wedding (my baby bro, our godson, one GMs daughter and, two cousins) all there parents are in the wedding so it works out. Our thoughts are since 75% of ppl have to travel 5-9 hours for the wedding so they will likely leave older kids. We are expecting maybe 10 kids or the sitter. Our wedding is also in the evening (7:30) so another reason not to bring kids.

We invited out of town kids (incidentally all family) and all local guests were invited without kids. We never specified this anywhere and no one tried to bring their uninvited children. For what it's worth, all the kids we had (9 kids ages 1-15) were very well behaved.

Do you know that all 18 kids would actually come? I allowed any kids and outside of my own nieces and nephews, only about half of the people with kids are actually bringing them.

I think a big factor here is whether your caterer offers free or reduced rate for kids. And for what it's worth, I know a lot of people on here have horror stories about kids at weddings, but almost every wedding I've been to was semiformal and still included children and it's always been just fine. It has more to do with whether your friends and family are responsible enough to keep an eye on their kids and make sure they're well-behaved.

Our ring bearer and flower girl and that's it. If they left post I wouldn't be upset (I'd actually love for their mom and dad to be able to let loose and party a bit as they rarely get out alone).

Not other little ones.

We're doing 18+. The exception is if we're inviting older siblings, we will invite the younger ones as well. So there are a couple 16 year olds.

This may be a harsh opinion but I just don't think most weddings are appropriate for kids....i remember being taken to weddings as a kid and being SO BORED and misbehaving. It was on the same level as being dragged to a work function with my mom lol. Now that I'm an adult and planning my own wedding, I just think the cost per guest is too much to (no offense) waste on a kid who doesn't want to be there anyway. Obviously, close family members are an exception and my niece and nephews will be at my wedding. I also think teenagers (13+) are fine because they need to learn about how weddings work and how to behave, etc.

Besides, what parent doesn't want an adults-only night out every once in a while?

The only people under 21 at our wedding will be my brother (20) and his sister (13). We don't want kids.... ever.... so we definitely don't want them at our wedding.

We're doing no children for budget reasons and because we don't want to hand pick who's kids can come, and who's we'd rather not. The only two exceptions for 'kids' under 18 are my mom's bff's daughter, who will be 15 or 16 at the time of my wedding, since she is basically like a little sister to me, and Mister's nephew, who will be 17 or 18 at the time of the wedding. I can't math right now.

We did no kids whatsoever. Someone had to be 18 years of age to attend. We chose not to have a ring bearer or flower girl to prevent any complaints in that area. We had some people try to manipulate us into bending the rules for them, but we stood our ground and it was fantastic.

As everyone else has said - it's your wedding, you should have what you want; however, I can definitely relate to wanting to hear what other people have done before figuring out exactly what it is you want. My FI and I are inviting only kids that are part of our every day lives, who we can't imagine excluding: his two nieces (12 and 14); my nephew/ring bearer (3); my 2nd cousins that I'm very close to (11 and 14); and my MOH's daughter/flower girl (6). We're not kicking the kids out at a set time, but when it gets later, some of the older kids will look after the younger ones. We're also having our dogs in our ceremony, after which they'll be in our hotel suite (everything is on one site), so we're kind of banking on the kids getting bored with the grown-up party and wanting to play with the pups, anyway.

I know we're going to have to have a few tough conversations with people whose kids aren't invited, but we want a small wedding, and kids just aren't part of that picture for us.

We are having an adult wedding with 18 as the cutoff age. There will be one exception for FH's sister who will be 14. Have the wedding you want. If kids are important to you, and their presence will make your wedding more enjoyable, then invite them!! Personally I think kids are annoying and not an appropriate presence at an evening wedding.

Edited: Most of my comment got cut off and I'm too lazy to retype so I'll just give a little advice. Be careful with a cutoff age. You may have guests who may have one kid who is "old enough" and one kid who isn't. And you really can't invite only one.