No Kids and Plus Ones

You can address it to the person/s directly and then on the RSVP card put "We have reserved x chairs in your honor" then have lines for them to write the names. Unfortunately I have heard of people having this feature, and the responder STILL putting some insane number of guests and adding kids on the RSVP card. I haven't sent mine yet, but this still stresses me out. I hope my family and friends are respectful enough to call and ask rather than change my card.

There is no you have to invite anyone or have to have plus ones it your day you dictate how it goes. Some of these comments are extremely too sensitive. The bottom line is if you don't want kids at your wedding you find a way to say it. I have not had a single person decline on account I did not invite there kids. I am a mother of 2 girls. I wouldn't be offended if someone told me they can not accommodate my children at their wedding. As brides we don't have to walk on eggshells to not offend our guests. Weddings aren't free and this is a once in a lifetime event. It should be how we want it. Period. Someone dating 3 months does not have to get an invite... because no has to get an invite that you don't want to give one too.

Kelly, that's extremely rude. It isn't your day unless you are going to city hall with your photographer.

We did the exact same thing: no kids and no plus ones besides those listed on the RSVP card. Put the info about the no kids on your website (we had an FAQ page where this was called out). As for invites, we specifically list out the names of this who were invited. For example "2 seats have been reserved name and name." Didn't have problems with this. And I had my mom and MIL spread the word.

Kelly, that is screaming rude. If that's your point of view, elopement is your friend.

You don't have to 'find a way to say' anything. You invite the people you want to invite.

"We have reserved 1 seat in your honor"

It's insane that people think that a couple that has been dating for 3 months (or however long) isn't worthy of being invited as a social unit.

At one point in time, eery single person here was only dating their FS for 3 months.

Yeah, I'll be putting something along those lines too. I don't care if others think it's rude, I wouldn't take offense if I had a kid and received an invite like that. I don't trust people and I absolutely don't want to take a chance that even one child will show up at my wedding. We absolutely hate children and if even one shows up it will be barred at the door. However, all the people we are inviting know how we feel about kids but I still don't trust they won't try to sneak a little bastard in if we don't say don't bring them.

We put on ours a nice note stating no kids. We still had people ask if they could bring there kids!

Tricia that's a really nice way to refer to the kids of people you claim to love. You have every right to not like kids but calling them bastards (which has a completely different meaning) is really disgusting.

"We absolutely hate children and if even one shows up it will be barred at the door. However, all the people we are inviting know how we feel about kids but I still don't trust they won't try to sneak a little bastard in if we don't say don't bring them."

Tricia, this is probably one of the most disgusting things I've read on this forum. IT??? You're referring to a human being as an "IT" and a "little bastard"? Disgusting.

"Unfortunately I have heard of people having this feature, and the responder STILL putting some insane number of guests and adding kids on the RSVP card."

At least in this situation I would feel better about standing up for myself. Anyone who filled out their RSVP card 7 of 2 will be attending knows they are pushing their luck and either expect a fight or hope that you will just let it happen to avoid conflict. There is no, "oh I didn't understand" or "You should have told me earlier".

I really don't care. And I specially don't care what some internet people have to say about me either. Call me rude. Go right ahead.

1. It is rude af to invite someone to your wedding to celebrate your relationship but you won't even acknowledge theirs.

2. The phrase "It's your day to what you want" is BULLSHIT. The moment you invite people to attend your event the day is no longer about you. The reception is you saying thank you to your guests for coming to witness you get married during the ceremony.

3. The phrases "We did it and no one cared" or "Well I wouldn't be offended if this happened to me..." are also BULLSHIT. No one will tell a bride or groom that their actions are rude af. So guess what when a bunch of internet strangers tell them the truth that their actions/ideas are considered rude and inconsiderate perhaps maybe you should listen. We don't know you. We are not scared to hurt your feelings. We will not validate your opinion because you are the bride. We will tell you exactly what your guests are too damn scared to tell you.

We are going to explicitly address the invitations to only those invited. If kids are invited (nieces & nephews), they will be on the address line.

We will also have a line on the RSVP card that says "___ seats have been reserved in your honor." And we will write in the number of seats.

Our wedding website also has a FAQs section, & I have addressed this issue there, in case they really don't get it.

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Our website said adults only. Invites were addressed to only those invited. But honestly? I'm in the midst of getting RSVPs back and NO ONE CARES WHAT THE INVITES SAY. I've had three separate people ask if they got a plus one. Does your invite say that? No. People don't get how expensive it is and no I'm not paying over $100 a head for your flavor of the week. The balls on people...... eye roll.

@katied I'm sorry not sorry you feel some type of way. I Will say it again It is my day. I'm paying for my day and I'm paying for people to come witness me get married and drink and eat on my dime. If your circle is to scare to tell you the truth then you need to look for a new circle. My circle however understands and does not sugar coat anything and most certainly will not be afraid of the bride or groom. If a "bunch of internet strangers" don't agree that's ok. This is a forum for discussion. Nothing about what I said was rude. You infact calling BS on everything is "rude". If you want to have your guest dictate how your wedding is going to flow then kudos to you hun. Me on the otherhand found a polite way to tell my guest that their children can not come. And again if I was told it's an adult only event I'm fine with it. Not all settings are appropriate for children. Point blank period.

Put the names of those invited in the invitations and then put we have reserved _ seats in your honor. If I didn't know their spouses name I just added Mr. Smith and guest.

You DON'T!