No Kids and Plus Ones

Just address it to the people invited and spread word of mouth that it is a no kids event.

You don't state anyone on the invites. You address them to Mr&Mrs Smith, or Mrs&Mrs Smith, Mr&Mr Smith...

If they're in a relationship, then you need to invite their partner.

There is no polite way to say "You're not invited."

You can include information on your website that you are having an adult reception.

Invite your guests by name on the invitation. Avoid writing "the Smith family".

On the rsvp card include "We have reserved ____ seats in your honor". You fill in the number.

When you receive rsvp's with that number crossed out and a larger one or other names written in, be prepared with the wording for a phone call:

" I'm sorry, there must have been a misunderstanding. We are unable to accommodate extra guests. If this means you will be unable to attend, we will miss you at the wedding."

I'm saying adult only on mines . Relationship wise that person plus one. if they are single Just address it to them.

I agree with @ muriels RSVP card wording. just make it kind of fullproof by filling it in. And also make sure when you address the invitations it states the person or if you were inviting plus ones in some cases Mr blank and guest. just make sure you wording is clear and concise and you shouldnt have too many problems

@Trinette- that's just another rude way of saying who is not invited.

Just to be clear, you mean plus ones or guests? If plus one then you would only address it to the person who is single. If it's a couple then I would reach out and find out the guest's name to put directly onto the invitation. That will also make it more clear as to whom in a given family is invited. As mentioned above, you could always include the reserved number of seats.

My invitations will state something along the line of adult only gathering, haven't really figured out the exact wording yet. I do not want small children at my wedding. I feel that if it is not specified on the invite then family/friends will just assume it is okay to bring the small child. If I received an invite that stated as such I would not think it was rude at all.

Didn't put it on invites or anything, but our website had a comment that was something like "we love your kids but all wedding events will be for the grown ups only. Let us know if you need help finding a babysitter close by!" and then we put each guests name on the invite

On our invitations we simply put "please leave the kids at home" on the very bottom line. There will be kids though... The flower girls and ring bearer and 2 kids from each side of IMMEDIATE family that we specifically told it didn't apply to them. If we didn't do that we would be having more kids then adults! Bottom line it's YOUR wedding... Do what you want!

Please don't listen to Trinette, Stephanie, OGBride, and Megan. All four are wrong.

You simply put the name of those invited on the invitation. As Kate said, people in a relationship must be invited together, as a couple, no matter how long they've been dating or whether or not you know the partner.

Megan, omg tell me you're not serious? I mean I wouldn't bring my son if the invite was addressed to me and FH, but fuck that's so rude to put. I mean really really rude.

It's not YOUR wedding..it's your and FH. It also stops being solely about your when you invite guests!

That's just so incredibly rude to put. "Leave your kids home" fuck no.

Trinette, Stephanie, and Megan. This information is so readily available online, yet you are deliberately choosing to be rude.

I'm not having any kids at my wedding I just put on the invitation this is an adult only event however we did allow plus ones i dont care how long they have been together that shouldn't matter some people don't like going to events alone i happen to be 1 of those people. If my husband/boyfriend cant go i wouldn't either

I don't agree with most of the others. If my cousin has been dating a girl for 3 months I will not be inviting her to my wedding. My wedding is to celebrate the joining of me and my FH. Not for new significant others, that probably won't be around for our first wedding anniversary, to eat my $40 per plate food (as petty as that sounds lol).

$40pp? Shit I wish ours was that...

It's incredibly rude to judge others' relationship, or determine if they're serious enough.

I'm not having kids either except my son, and FG. And 3 cousins, as they're from OOT.

The issue is that some parents just always assume their kids are invited. We addressed the invites to the adults in the family and still had one guest RSVP for her toddler. My husband called her and told her it was adults only. She wasn't happy, thought we should've told her earlier etc. Etiquette wise we were in the right but the problem is that some people know so little of wedding etiquette, that they will think we were in the wrong for not stating it more explicitly. Damned if you do, damned if you don't.

I honestly had no clue until I joined WW. I also wouldn't take my son to a wedding unless I knew 100% he was invited, I would ask first.

I don't think most parents do it intentionally, I think they just didn't know etiquette. Once I've asked and been told no kids, I make arrangements, and attend the event. It's not a big deal to get a sitter for a few hours.

We don't want to have kids at our wedding just the kids in the wedding, 3 kids. I believe it will be a pain with the kids from my nephew and niece. I already anticipate a phone call asking if they can bring their 4 kids. 3 of the kids are under 3 and my venue is charging 120 per person including any baby or toddler. Isn't a norm to have adult only weddings?

It's certainly becoming much more normal. I've always been an advocate of them.