No boxed gifts?

There was probably a better way they could have worded the invite, but I don't think it was as rude as people are making it out to be. If they have been together for a while, already have a house, etc, then they see no need to boxed gifts. I really don't understand why people think asking for cash is rude, but a registry isn't. I would much rather get the couple something they want (even if it is cash) then some random gift off a registry, that they may not actually want, but felt pressured to register.

I guess I'd give them the benefit of the doubt and assume they meant no boxed gifts to the wedding, due to transportation issues. Either way it's not appropriate to include gift instructions on the invitation. I'd try to find out if they are registered anywhere and send them a gift to their home. Or I wouldn't give them anything...I don't like giving cash in any case, but especially not if I was told to. If you don't want me to give you a gift, then fine, I won't.

I'm with Celia on this. If it's a problem then skip it. If you go just bring a card with cash or a gift card and keep you mouth shut.

Do you know of a reason to excuse it (they're in the midst of moving, they live across country, one or both in the military, etc.)?

I wouldn't find it rude. But if I planned on giving a gift on that day that was in a box, I'd either have it shipped to their house instead or drop it off myself. I wouldn't give cash if I hadn't already planned on doing it.

Omg @KM I never even thought about what we'll do if we get gifts how are we going to get them home.

I would get them a spatula.

Lawmom: Yeah it's really something you have to consider...because shipping stuff via UPS yourself is A LOT more expensive than paying shipping from a store.

We brought two big empty suitcases and bought our flights on Southwest because they allow two checked bags per person and two carry-ons per person for free. Other airlines charge as much as $75 to check a bag. Keep all of that in mind!

One of my friends returned the box gifts and reordered them from the store to get the free shipping...perhaps that should be under confession Friday instead but its an idea lol.

ETA: To your original question OP, yes they are asking for cash and yes that is rude.

I agree that it's rude to tell them that they're rude if you're not asked. Personally I would still go, but I'd probably send a gift to their house or get them a gift card. Just because she did 1 rude thing doesn't necessarily mean you should throw up your arms and say "that's it, I just can't be friends with you". Unless you honestly feel that offended and if you do, that's ok.

At least it wasn't a tacky poem.

We didn't put no boxed gift... we absolute want gifts. But on our website we've put to please ship to my FH's home. We are driving to where our wedding is and 75% of our guest are driving or flying. If even half our guest bring a boxed gift we'd need a uhaul to get it all back. hopefully the gift buyers take heed. If not we might just have to leave some stuff at FH's family house until our next trip. We will probably rent a nice car for the week that way it can double as our transportation and reception exit.

Am I the only one who read this entirely as don't bring boxed gifts to the venue, b/c they have no way of transporting them home?

I know it's only an hour from home, but maybe they have too many people in too many cars, and already have to load up decorations or something.

The thought that this was implying cash never even crossed my mind.

Yea its rude, they just want money. most of the weddings i have been to there have only been a hand full of small boxed gifts there the rest were cards

We created a gift registry, even though we're in our forties, and have been together 7 years, and would prefer cash. Why? Because I figure if you know us well enough, you'll know what not to get us. If not, we can return/exchange/regift/laugh at it.

I would just hand them a slotted spoon at the wedding. It's not in a box.

I would have preferred cash but we received lots of package gifts. A few of which will be treasured for a lifetime. My BM maid me a huge queen size afghan in the double wedding ring pattern (never seen one before!) in our wedding colors. She spent a YEAR making it for us! It is beautiful! I had tears rolling down my face that she loves me enough to make this for me.

This is when i buy them a gift card to a somewhat random store to just be a smart ass. Like kroger, barns and noble, autozone, etc.

Agree with KM, we left all of our big gifts in CA at my parents house so we wouldn't have to bring it all with Us and bring it back (we plan on moving to CA, sooner the better ...there are some nice appliances I would like to use )

Even traveling with all that stuff on southwest would be a pain ..considering taking the Marta in Atlanta with 6 bags ???

So no it's not ALWAYs rude to put no boxed gifts , maybe the couple plans to move in the near future ?? Consider that ??

If they're a good friend , I'd respect their wishes and still go

I agree with some of the others above.. It's already past the fact that this couple put this on all the invites that they sent out, whatever their reasoning. There is literally zero benefit to telling them now how rude you think it was, and it won't change anything. Stating your unasked opinion will probably only sour your relationship (imagine being in her shoes and getting called out on something, whether you feel it's right or wrong – I'd think it would likely only stress and upset you more), and it's really your choice whether or not something like this is worth skipping out on the whole wedding. If this was my friend, I'd still go and give them a card with cash and enjoy myself on their big day with them. To me, personally, it's not a deal-breaker and I wouldn't even think twice about it.