No alcohol at my wedding.

I guess that would be your choice ... it is your wedding ... personally, I am not an alcoholic but I wouldn't be very happy if I went to a wedding, purchasing a beautiful gift and then not able to have a casual drink. I would let your guests all know this ahead of time... perhaps on the invitation? Good Luck!!

I would stick with your plan and x out the alcohol. You can still have a fun wedding without it. What about Shirley temples, Italian soda's, root beer floats, sparkling cider, cream soda's? You can even do coffee and tea or punch. I have even seen some people do many different types of lemonades and stuff!

I'd suggest having it earlier in the day. Like in the afternoon. So you do your ceremony, eat dinner around 4, do a little dancing, cake around 7 and it the door by 9. People are going to want to go out and party later. I know the last dry wedding I went to, there are 10 out of maybe 125 people left at 9pm. The reception didn't end until 11. It wasn't exactly fun for the adults, but you know your crowd. If they're mostly dry then who knows? Maybe they'll stay later!

We had no alcohol at our wedding and no one seemed to miss it. We had sparkling cider, a hot chocolate bar. Punch, hot tea assortment and both coffee and decaf coffee. We also put water with lemon in it on all the tables.

Personally, I'm too awkward to dance sans alcohol.

We are foregoing alcohol because of the cost alone, and our reception is at a city park. If people are that off put because you don't have alcohol, they are there for the wrong reasons. And if anyone asks, just tell them you decided to not serve it. End of story. You shouldn't have to explain the choices you and your FH made in regards to your wedding.

Strangers on the internet can't answer this question for you. it all depends on your guests. There are some regions/social circles where it would be completely unacceptable to host a dry wedding. But that doesn't mean everyone feels that way. Are most of your guests non-drinkers, are they used to dry social events? If so they probably don't care. Have soda, tea, lemonade, mock-tales, whatever. We can't tell you how your guests will feel about it.

I've been to several dry weddings where guests still have had a great time. I disagree with a comment above. I think it is rude for a guest to expect alcohol as compensation for buying a nice gift. A gift is meant to be a kind gesture, not have strings attached. You could do sparkling cider for toasts.

If you put "dry" wedding on the invite people might sneak some in or pre-game...I like the notice but it could turn bad...

You won't be of legal drinking age. No other reasons are needed. I expect your guests will know that there's it's a dry wedding. The usual debate does not apply to your wedding. You HAVE to abide by the law.

You won't be of legal drinking age. No other reasons are needed. I expect your guests will know that there's it's a dry wedding. The usual debate does not apply to your wedding. You HAVE to abide by the law.

I'm with Jill...we're not having alcohol because it's just so expensive, and I don't want to have a cash bar. I think it's really immature of people to leave because there's not alcohol. Last time I checked, you didn't NEED alcohol to have a good time. And yes, my reception is until 11:00 on a Saturday night. No, I don't think they're going to leave because they "need" alcohol...if they do, then I don't want them there anyway.

I had a dry reception for all the same reasons-- plus-- we have many alcoholics in the family, and my MIL and FIL do NOT get along-- better to keep everyone sober and on his best behavior than take chances with what tipsy/drunk people might do or say.

The party lasted for our whole reception time-- it depends a lot on your 'crowd', I think, but people who don't drink are unlikely to run with a crowd that puts a large emphasis on it.

Yes, we won't be of legal drinking age, but most of our guests will be. There still could technically be alcohol for the guests.

I suggest having an early wedding. Most people don't want to drink during the day anyway. Night weddings have more of a "party" feel. If you're 20 I'm guessing a lot of your friends are under Age anyway. maybe do some champagne for toasting but you could substitute that with sparking cider. I don't suggest having a night wedding of there is no alcohol.

^so it still is an "issue".

Our problem isn't about us not having it, it's about our guests not having it.

Hey now... I was one of the ones who stayed until 11.

My sisters wedding was dry and they were under 21. It's was fine because my family doesn't drink. His family wasn't too happy about it but they are alcoholics and the big reason there was none. We just had tea, lemonade, soda, and punch. Toast with whatever your fave drink is. Ultimately I think it comes down to your crowd.

Hmmm. I'm in the "have it earlier in the day if it's dry" camp. I'm in my mid 30s, though and we (and our friends) are drinkers. If I went to an evening meal and didn't have the option of having at least a glass or two (or three, lol) of wine with my meal, I would a) be kind of bummed and b) be far less likely to stay late and party/dance the night away. I'm confused about why the "remember that you're throwing a party for your guests, not yourself, so plan something they will enjoy" rule of thumb seems to apply to everything but alcohol. FH and I like to listen to reggae and 80s rap music, but that's not what will be playing at our wedding because we will have 120 guests, who each have different taste in music, who we all want to enjoy themselves. Of course it's your decision and there's nothing wrong with hosting a party with no alcohol. But IMHO, at an evening wedding, I would (at the very least) have enough beer and wine for anyone who wants to have a drink with dinner. You don't have to supply enough to get everyone blasted, just enough to keep people who prefer to celebrate with a drink or two satisfied.

It depend on your crowd. If they are largely under 21, it doesn't matter how they feel about it; they can't drink anyway. But I don't love this concept that anyone who thinks having an adult beverage available at a wedding is an alcoholic, that they're going to get drunk, create a scene and beat other family members up. And that the concept of going to a party and having a glass of wine or two is somehow sign of depravity.

If you don't want to serve it, don't. That would never fly in my crowd but it may in yours.