No alcohol at my wedding.

Again, it's dependant on social circles and regions. We too are doing a dry wedding and we are both well over drinking age. We are doing it for several reasons: 1. Cost 2. We both have recovering alcoholic fathers 3. We don't want to pay for the rest of the family get drunk (last wedding had fights break out and ppl too drunk to stand... It was BYOB). Which goes back to reason 1 which is the biggest reason. We are choosing an afternoon wedding So that no one will really miss the alcohol. We will be having a tea bar, coffee, iced tea, lemonade, Idk what else yet.... And sparkling cider for toasts.

I went to a dry wedding that was an evening wedding and I still had a blast. There weren't a lot of people dancing, but that was their crowd. I was still out there on the dance floor! I think it depends on your crowd but it can totally work.

Just don't tell anyone that it's going to be dry.otherwise some ads that has no respect for it wishes will sneak it in.just let them find out when they get there.

If I was your guest I wouldn't mind. I didn't even drink at my own wedding. Not a fan of alcohol.

We aren't having alcohol at our reception. The ceremony and reception are going to be held in the same area, small ceremony with a dinner reception following. It's more like the feel of a family gathering and celebration than the typical reception with a dj and alcohol. We don't drink and are not the party types anymore. We just want a good dinner and mingling with our loved ones. The ceremony will be at 4pm, pictures then dinner to follow. Just remember, this is your day. Do it just how you want it done, be happy, and enjoy the most loving day with your hubby!

I have a mixed crowd of drinkers and non drinkers coming to my wedding. They all know it will be dry because I have had gastric bypass surgery and can never drink alcohol ever again. Why would I serve something that I don't per take in??? My best friend goes bar hoping with her husband every weekend and she is coming to my wedding for the whole weekend. We will have dinners out that weekend and I have made it clear to everyone that I will pay for dinner but on your own for the alcohol. They were all okay with it and didn't expect me to pay or provide it. They were all shocked that I am providing cake, a smores bar, and doing catered food since I cannot eat any of that either. My guest are coming to be with me and FH on our wedding day and they don't care what is or isn't there. That is the way it should be. Just for fun: My food and drinks are going to be stashed under our sweetheart table in a cooler LOL.

With your case it seems like it would be a good idea to forgo alcohol (as you are planning to do). It might be a legal gray zone to have something like an open bar where you would be paying for the alcohol even if you're not actually drinking.

I would imagine since you are underage, people would expect a dry wedding.

Sparkling juice in a flute with a strawberry would be a cute way to toast

Just a note regarding dry weddings. Every one I have ever heard of had people decline or start to leave early. I've been ready to go sooner at limited bars also, just because I'm not very buzzed up, too embarassed to dance sober, tired sooner etc

I had a friend do this - people were mad and brought their own alcohol in with them.. a few people even spent half the night in the parking lot drinking in their cars (smart, right?! ugh).. she still ended up having drunk guests. You should really give the heads up ahead of time - but at the same time, it is your wedding so do what you want. It definitely wouldn't fly with my group, but people will more than likely understand because you are both under 21.. i would just let people know ahead of time and not get too disappointed if a few people have a few drinks between the ceremony and reception (i would not have a cocktail hour if you do) or if they sneak some in.

I agree that since you aren't of drinking age as a guest I wouldn't expect alcohol to be at your wedding. We went to a dry wedding in September and we still had a good time. It wasn't a shock to any because the bride and groom but "dry reception" on their invites. I didn't see anyone sneaking any flask in but you have to know your crowd if they are the type of people to do that.

We aren't doing any alcohol (2 reasons, budget restrictions & over half or more of the guest list is highly Pentecostal & does not drink). We did not go out of our way to tell anyone, but have spread the word by word of mouth if asked. I don't feel bad about it at all, & I'm sure the guests wont be leaving as soon as they see there is no alcohol. Our wedding ends kind of early too & we have told many people we intend to go out after wards anyway & do the river street thing (b/c we do drink). TBH the only people that have even mentioned alcohol are people that aren't invited..

I would be bummed by a dry wedding.. I just think they're boring. But that's just me, I know plenty of people do it and feel like their wedding was a success.

UNLESS it was a morning wedding. I wouldn't find that odd. It could be really cute to have a tea time wedding!

You're not 21, I doubt it will come as a shock that your reception will be dry. I would maybe do sparkling cider in flutes with raspberries or something like that and I would try for an earlier reception. I've been to several dry weddings and most were on the boring side due to no dancing, bad dj & the last one's guests kept taking the mic and using it as some sort of platform for giving their testimonials. I'm religious yet was super uncomfortable with that one. Give me the drunk cousin on the mic any day! And really, the bride/groom shouldn't ever be "dealing" with out of hand guests. That's the job of a DoC or whoever the venue has on hand.

Like many have said.....especially with your age, I don't think it will be a big deal to not have alcohol. BUT, maybe an earlier ceremony is better. I'm fine going to a dry wedding, but in all honesty, I wouldn't stay late. Not because I HAVE to have alcohol or I don't love you enough to stay... I'm just an old lady and if I'm not having a few drinks, I'm exhausted by 9.

Definitely do a brunch or lunch wedding. It will save you money and people are less likely to want a drink during the day. A dry wedding with a party atmosphere just doesn't work, but I have been to lovely daytime dry/ limited drinks weddings. I think you have a lot of growing and maturing to do . . .

1. It's silly to say that you don't plan on drinking and that you hate something that you haven't had the opportunity to enjoy yet

2. Most adults can drink without making a scene.

I agree with everyone above. I wouldn't expect alcohol at any event for someone under 21. Actually I'm surprise that your venue would even allow it. The hotel venue wouldn't allow alcohol at my sister graduation party even with over half the guest being over 21. Your venue may not even offer the option even if your guest will be over 21. Because they can't sale alcohol to anyone underage and technically even if you are not drinking they will be selling the alcohol to you and your FH.

I agree with above comments about how most people would expect it to be a dry wedding given your age and to also check with your venue to see if they would even allow alcohol to be served with you being under 21. I know our venue requires if we serve alcohol that anyone there under the age of 21 be there with a parent or guardian or else we cannot even serve alcohol or the guest under 21 will be asked to leave. It is right in our contract. Some venues are very strict with this.

You're under 21, no explanation needed. One of the reasons we didn't have alcohol at our wedding because of how the permit worked for our venue, the permit was only for 2 hours and was $200 a pop. So we would have had to purchase 2 or 3 permits to not be restricted on the times the alcohol was served, and I just didn't like the idea of having a security officer policing our alcohol. The other reason was because our wedding was at 2:00 on a Sunday afternoon and many of our guests didn't live locally. We had a rose' sparkling beverage for the toast and our caterer made mock champagne punch as one of the beverages.

I hate meat and I won't serve it. That's the part I find problematic with all of these discussions. Or I hate bread and no one should have it. or I won't serve alcohol because my family has no control, even the sober ones, and it'll be a problem.

In your case it makes sense because of your personal age and most venues liability concerns. In many other cases though, it doesn't. But again, not my circus, not my monkeys. If I had a dry wedding it would be 15 minutes long. An all naked wedding would last longer. And that would be ugly.