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Amber
Beginner September 2024

Need Advice!! Find new venue, stay, or wait longer?!?

Amber, on December 19, 2023 at 10:48 PM Posted in Planning 0 11
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I feel emotionally and physically exhausted. I had booked a venue for my wedding since July, but it's being remodeled, and the first date it was supposed to be ready was in August. However, now it won't be ready until March. My sister got engaged after me, and I'm also planning her wedding. Even though my set day was in September, I need to send out save the dates soon. Honestly, I feel like waiting another year because I don't want to deal with planning two weddings at once. Moreover, there's a possibility that my venue won't be ready on time, and I'll have to postpone the wedding. I'd rather not deal with the stress and wait, but I'm not sure what to do.
And there’s not many other venues that fit my vibe so I’m loosing hope in finding something else.

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Latest activity by Jacks, on December 20, 2023 at 7:38 PM
  • Jacks
    Rockstar November 2054
    Jacks ·
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    It kind of sounds like you want to wait. There's nothing wrong with doing that, and if it will take pressure off why not? Did you have the venue actually booked or was the date sort of tentative?

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  • Amber
    Beginner September 2024
    Amber ·
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    My parents are just really pushing me not to wait. Yes we actually have it booked, but will get a full refund if we want to cancel because of remodel.
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  • Andrea
    Rockstar January 2024
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    If you’re set on this venue, then it sounds like it would be better to wait. It’s not your parents wedding. You and your fiance are the only opinions that matter on this!
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    Master July 2019
    Hannah ·
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    Do what is best for you and your future partner. Also, you are under no obligation to plan your sister’s wedding. If things have become too much, tell her you can’t be as involved. The only people required to plan are the two getting married. Otherwise, any help is a bonus.
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    CM ·
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    If they are expected to be finished in March, I would hope that your September date should be safe. When will they have a better idea? In your place, I wouldn't postpone unless it was a last resort, but depending on the likelihood of delay, I might consider changing venues. Then again, I'm not the type to be tied to any one particular vibe. My attitude is there's always somewhere else. A party is about the people and what you make it.

    As for the stress of planning your sister's wedding, why is that your job and not her's and her FI's?

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  • Amber
    Beginner September 2024
    Amber ·
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    When I say planning my sisters wedding I mean planning all the pre wedding events and helping out day of because I’m the maid of honor. Sorry I should have clarified.
    The venue has postponed the remodel end date 3x now:
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    Champion July 2019
    Veronica ·
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    Your parents opinion is irrelevant. It's the decision of the bride and groom. I wouldn't have been willing to postpone my wedding because we wanted to start a family and I wasn't willing to have children until we were married so in my case postponing would have delayed that. But again not everyone's situations are the same. If you are okay with a long engagement and both of you want to postpone then go ahead but both of you need to make sure you're on the same page.
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  • Amber
    Beginner September 2024
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    Even if my parents are paying for my wedding ?
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    Well in that case then yeah I would think they should have a say especially because things tend to get more expensive from one year to the next so unless you can lock in 2024 prices for 2025 I can understand why they might not want you to postpone.
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    CM ·
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    A shower or bachelorette do not and IMO should not have to be anything that takes a lot of time or money to plan. Most that I attend are a low key brunch or luncheon at someone’s home. Likewise, if you ask me, anything more than a local bachelorette celebration is unnecessary and a burden. Keeping it simple will be a favor to others and if you are physically and emotionally exhausted already, especially to you.


    If your parents are paying for the wedding then they are the hosts and have say. That doesn’t mean you have to accept.
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  • Jacks
    Rockstar November 2054
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    If you're feeling pushed to get married, that is a good time to slow down and think for yourself. I would decline their money and have a wedding that you can afford when and if you're ready.

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