Name Change Identity Crisis :(

Okay, honestly, I am NOT changing my last name, I don't care WHAT you do, and I have offered genuinely supportive advice regardless. Your comment is sarcastic, both of them, and how was I supposed to know the difference as to whether or not you were being rude the second time.

My advice came from experience, I have a child, I have been pregnant, I have dealt with both parenting issues within my own home and with a step parent. I offered advice as to that. And even if this is the only issue NOW, its the only parenting issue thus far. And no, I don't know you, but from what I do know, you are fighting with your husband w/o being willing to bend, in any direction, on your first parenting issue. Yes, that to me, says you will be fighting for a looonggg 18 years or more. And to point out the obvious, no one here "knows" anyone, but you are asking for advice from literal strangers on a very sensitive and private topic. Its borderline ridiculous to be like "you don't know me well enough to say ____"

In regards to pregnancy hormones, yes, I feel that I can safely say that when your body is literally terrorizing itself, emotions get out of whack and can sometimes make people feel more convicted in their decisions that they otherwise wouldn't be, and make you more irritable, sad, etc. This WILL happen to you, in some capacity at some point. If you felt offended, I'm sorry, but honestly the general tone you have in this entire thread is radically different from your past posts, so to me it says its possible its hormones.

Again - in no way was I attempting to be offensive, and at various points I offered advice that seemed genuinely helpful. Whether or not you choose to take it is up to you.

Typical dramatic post where OP ignores all helpful comments and only responds to create more drama.

Do you not like his last name??? Personally, I can not WAIT to be Mrs. Weaver. I wish I could do it today! Buuuuuut then again, it is a good last name, it isnt like. Schlidenhjzberg or something ridiculous lll

I understand wanting to keep your originality. My last name is also very unique. I'm the only person at least in the U.S. with my full name. I do plan on changing it after we get married, but keep thinking about the possibility of hyphenating too. My FH has 4 people with his same name in our town alone and one of them was arrested for child pornography!! I had to post the article on Facebook that it was NOT my FH!!! I suggest both of you hyphenating both of your current last names and doing the same for baby. It may be long, but a lot of people are doing that and it keeps both sides happy. When your kids are 18 or get married, they can decide to change or shorten it down the line. Making it something totally different is a cool idea in theory, making something that's all your own, but it does take away from the history of your family lines.

I'm going to change my middle name to my maiden and take my FH's last name. I do like mine better but I'm doing it because we want to make things easier for when we have kids. People would end up calling me by his name regardless if we have kids because people assume you have the same last name.

Not in a mean way at all jus my opinion - There's nothing wrong with keeping your name if that is what you want. hands down. but...It seems like you would change your name to anything other than just your FH's last name. You would give yours up if he would change his too. Makes me wonder if you are really connected to your name or you just want to keep things even - like you both are giving something up.

My FH doesn't mind what I do....take his or not. He understands if I want to keep mine.

I'm old fashioned. I like the idea of taking the husbands name. And when It comes to the comedown I think men like it too. No matter how much the times have changed both men and women have basic instincts that need to be met as men and women. Men measure their self worth through their accomplishments. A successful career, establishing a family and providing for them. His children, caring his name, is a since of pride and accomplishment. Their are exceptions, but very few. I think it the same when a women takes his name, its a small symbol that shows connection and unity within family.

Why don’t you talk to him about you both taking on your last name? If his mother is so adamant that her name be carried on, make his last name your children’s middle. If he really doesn’t care about his name that is. As far as his mans man job, talk to him about your worries for his future career. He knows his work place best.