My FH and I opted for a small wedding at the Cliffs of Moher in Ireland next year in May. We gave our 35 guests a year plus time in advance to know this. Since our wedding is so small, we opted not to have a bridal party either, which greatly upset my sister because she was under the impression she would be the maid of honor. In the last three months, my sister has been telling everyone BUT me that she is not coming to my wedding because simply she has no desire to go to Ireland and I shouldn't force her to go if she doesn't want to. My issue is, we are supposed to be best friends, and I am extremely hurt that she's gone out of her way to tell everyone but me she isn't going. I am upset, hurt, and am almost certain she won't change her mind (she has a mentality if it doesn't benefit her, she doesn't have to do it). I would NEVER do this to her, so I am annoyed she's doing this to me... I know this is going to ruin our relationship for the future. The question is if she doesn't come like she has been saying all along, is it wrong to cut off contact with her or am I being too harsh?