My sister is in the wedding and wants to bring a 2 week old baby

Oh man, I totally get you in that I would not want a crying baby in my ceremony AT ALL. I have no idea what to do though, seems like the baby may be too young to be left without mom even for a little bit. Best of luck

I would let them decide and just deal. One of my SILs on DH's side was due two weeks after our wedding and ended up delivering 2 weeks early. The baby was in a sling that she wore the whole time and never made a sound.

Being a mother that would be a NO! Well I wouldn't personally bring my child to that setting at 2 weeks, hell 3 months is pushing it but I'm just over protective. I would probably have her sit this out.

Wow, congratulations to your sister. Sounds like a happy ending to a LONG struggle.

I don't think it's fair for her to decide that your mom has to miss the wedding. If she wants to come and bring the baby you should let her, but it's not fair to make your mom leave.

If your sister wants to bring her baby let her. What is not fair is her deciding your mom will be her babysitter for the night. You have to let your mom and your sister figure this one out.

Tricky situation. Maybe the surrogate can watch her if they are close or a good friend. The baby may not take a bottle. Usually at that age, they don't cry too much but I do understand your dilemma.

I would not be okay with her bringing the baby for the babys sake, SO MANY GERMS. My MOH isn't bringing her 3 mo. old baby because of all the random people. Does your sister not have a best friend who can watch the baby other than your mom?

Catlady- She isn't going to be breastfeeding, the baby is through a surrogate.

What does your mom have to say about this? i don't think my mom would be willing to skip my wedding to babysit for anyone, even her own grandchild.

also, are you prepared for the fact that your sister may not even be able to attend the wedding anymore if the surrogate delivers late?

all that being said, i would maybe just leave it alone until the wedding is closer.

Definitely encourage her to ask the doctor about this. Hopefully they can be the "bad guy" and tell her this is a bad idea. I'd also talk with your mom and tell her it's important to you that she attend the whole wedding.

I would want to be separated from my newborn, breastfeeding or not. Please let your sister decide on what she wants to do, and support her decision.

FFS, I had my son out and about with people at two days old. I wasn't staying home just because I had a fucking newborn, I would have gone crazy. Plus, things like groceries and life had to still happen.

If the child is healthy, there is no reason it cannot be around people. Your sister will still be bonding with the child at that age and it will be sleeping and eating for the majority of the time. We could have dropped our son in the middle of a rock concert at that age and he would have slept through it so long as he wasn't hungry.

She's your sister, she has gone through hell and back to get a viable child and you are going to tell her that she cannot bring an infant (who will most likely sleep the entire time) to your wedding? Good luck with that.

@Christy-You would be astonished at how many people tried to touch and kiss my son when we were out and about. I bought a ring sling, threw him in it and told people he was on the boob and not to bug him.

ETA: Also, smacking people's hands and telling them "no" is an awesome deterrent, family or no.

If she wants to bring the baby fine.. but absolutely not is it ok for your mom to leave to take care of HER baby..she wanted to be a parent? Well this is parenting don't get to have everything you want.

Either her or her husband can watch baby after, this is a special day for your mom as well

I think your sister should be allowed to bring the baby (despite it probably not being a great call to take a 2 week to a party filled with strangers with germs), but I would put my foot down about having your mother babysit. Whatever arrangements need to be made, that's fine, but there is no way I would be OK with having my mom miss out on my wedding because my sister insisted on her babysitting. It's also putting your mom in a pretty difficult position as well, because she's not going to want to say no to her daughter.

What Ana said

While I don't think you should tell her to not being the baby to the wedding (she may not want to be separated from the baby during this bonding time/may not have anyone she wants to watch the baby) I would definitely talk to your mom about how important it is to have her there. I wouldn't want my mom missing my wedding if my sister had other options for the baby (can the father watch the baby? Is she married to the father)

For all of you who are so concerned about kids and germs, here's the thing, don't ever have children. Once they start school, they become little germ factories and they bring home every single disease.

For the first two months of a baby's life, they are covered by their mother's immunity, which is why it is very important that babies start their vaccination schedules on time at 2 months of age because that's when their immunity from their mothers start to wane.

I wouldn't even think to bring a 2 week old baby out in public. Especially not to a place where potentially hundreds of people will be. A 2 week old baby's immune system isn't strong enough to handle some airborne colds and illnesses that an older baby or adult can fight off. If she will have a 2 week old she needs to think of the childs health and well being and stay home. Tell her to ask her pediatrician if its ok to bring the baby to a wedding/reception at 2 weeks old