My sister got engaged...

So I understand feeling like you're not on a same page b/c for a while I felt like my fiance and I weren't, even though we actually were and I just didn't know it. Take a deep breath and focus on your relationship now and how lucky you are to have him. I know that is WAY easier said than done, but try to be happy that your sister is happy, and keep telling yourself that your time will come

Is the engagement is official yet I read your profile your man is in the military don't be mad at him first thing is he his not dragging his feet, he is not ready it seems that you two are diffrent pages. for your sister be happy for her and don't be jealous that will make you ill think postive someday that is going to be me.and talk to your man how you feel.

It sounds like yes, you are upset about the fact that your sister is engaged but the root of the reason (as you said) is that you are not engaged yet and some of that hurt/disappointment is being projected toward your sister. Only your DS can change that but try not to be upset with your sister, she wasn't trying to hurt you she's just going through the motions of life and living. I've been where you are before.My first husband took seven years to propose which I never, ever thought I would wait that long for anyone but we finally did after all that time.

Okay littlefox, you always tend to pick on dks. There is no rules on the website where you can't be on here, if you are not engaged . We have married people, engaged people, non engaged people as well. I joined in WW last April unengaged but I knew he would propose, because we were talking about marriage. Then a month later, he proposed to me. Sometimes it take men a while to be ready to be married. DKS haven't been bothering him about proposal lately and I am proud of her. I can understand why she is upset, because she dream to be engaged to her boyfriend. So if you have nothing nice to say, please keep your mouth shut.

I agree with MDLS, the real heart of the matter is not your sisters engagement, it's that your hurting about your own situation. Your sisters engagement stirred up your anxiety about not having a proposal from your BF, which is completely understandable. you said you are happy for her and i know it's hard, but and your sisters and your relationship are 2 separate entities, whomever gets married first doesn't negate the others relationship. your relationship and marriage will be special regardless. communication is the key to help you get over this resentment and i think an indepth talk with your bf about where you both are in life and your relationship is what is needed or your resentment will build a wall between you both.

I agree, it doesn't matter who get married first. All it matters what kind of the relationship you have with your partner. My 19 years old cousin was angry that I got engaged few weeks after her, she was like you hardly know him and haven't dated him for a long time. I wanted to say um you are 19 and that is too young, but I kept my mouth shut. I said well we are in love and we feel it is right for us. Think of this way DKS, you and your bf went through so much for five years and that what makes it a stronger relationship. Trust me you will have your turn :-). You really should take it easy and be happy that you have a great life. Marriage is forever so enjoy the dating life for now.

@littlefox-- Why do you feel the need to dictate who can and cannot post? You're no moderator. Personally, I love DKS. She's a fantastic addition to the forums. Unlike, say, you and your negativity? You are always making comments that are out of line. Why are YOU still here?

Buzz off.

DKS-- Girl, I TOTALLY sympathize! It's hard when you're frustrated with your situation and you're forced to act happy for someone else. Just keep your chin up. Things will happen on their own. :] And ignore the morons who make comments to you. I got your back. Hahhaa

My issue relates primarily to a post which she had made before paired with this one, that made me feel that her time maybe better used on her relationship, than worrying about wedding plans before she needed to. I have seen a lot of young women spend their time in a relationship where they and their boy are not on the same page. It is extremly painful to realize you spent all those years working towards a goal(marriage) while you partner is running from it. If i have gotten the wrong impression I will be happy to say sorry to DKS. I simply offer advice based on the limited information provided to me (imo that is the natural function of these forums)

I do not inherently have anything against unengaged people being on here i just dont understand it and also recognize that i dont have to get it since it doesnt directly affect me.

I agree with anren..little fox you are aggressively negative towards dks. Why on earth did you feel the need to stalk back to a thread in the beginning of June just to "prove" why you feel the need to snap. Turn the dial down a few hundred notches.

That being said. Dks. I agree with megan. You'll get your turn. We love you and I personally enjoy having you here..whether or not you are engaged. I do think MDLS has a strong point in that your saddness from lack of your bf proposing has been directed in the wrong way towards your sister. It'll turn out for the better soon!! :-).

I couldn't have said it better myself, Nicci. I adore having you here, DKS! I think that you're an amazing woman and you will definitely get your turn!