My mother and grandmother are wearing black to our wedding...thoughts?

I think it's totally up to you- if it bothers you, say something, and they should be understanding.

My mom and I just went shopping for her dress yesterday, and some of the dresses she tried on were black, though she didn't end up with a black one. It wouldn't bother me at all.

I personally told my mom- no black. She was fine with it. She is doing a gold/silver dress. But I do know my Grandma will show in black- I cant remember the last time she did not wear black so I can not argue with her.

I've seen plenty of MOBs wear black - none of whom disapproved of the marriage. I'm with the "who cares" part of you; she looks good in it, the dress is pretty, it matches the style of your dress and she can also spiff it up with colorful shoes/purse/belt/other accessories.

Awww... if your mom is happy and feels amazing in it, that's all that matters! I agree with Kat - I've seen plenty of mamas in black and they look classy and elegant

Well, if you feel that by wearing black your mother is trying to make a statement, then I'd talk to her about it and tell her that the whole passive/aggressive behavior that her wearing black symbolizes is hurtful to you. See if there is any way to talk through it and come up with a solution.
But for the most part, black dresses are easy to find, come in a variety of styles, are slimming, match with any color combo, and can be worn again so in reality she probably just thought she looked good in dress and I wouldn't say anything to her.

Thanks ladies! When I first saw it I thought it was pretty and she loved it, so black it is!

My grandmother wore black to our wedding and she looked stunning. She was comfortable and that's all that mattered. And she was very happy about our marriage It's entirely up to you but don't worry too much about it.

I agree with Konichiwa and the others..Also I could see if you discussed it beforehand, which if black was a potential problem for you should have happened..now that they paid for them and everything I think it's best to leave it be especially since it doesn't bother you too much:-)

My mom is wearing black because she can't afford to buy a dress for my wedding. (We're having enough trouble paying for my veil and shoes right now :/) It's also my grandmother's dress who passed away so my mom thinks it'll be a nice gesture. My bridesmaids are going to be in black and teal so I figure it won't matter. Plus my mom's carrying my infant down the aisle as our ringbearer so at least she'll match his little black tux.

I personally think the only color that is unacceptable is white. As long as your mom isn't it white, you're fine! And that's what my friend who is a wedding planner told me.

I think it is very pretty (one of my colors is black though), BUT I don't like it to be all black. I told my mom she could wear black as long as it had a color accent--a sash or something. Also her corsage is white so that adds something different

I think that it is very old school and something that was followed for many years but I dont think that is the case nowadays. As long as they are comfortable and look beautiful then thats all that matters.

I say yay to black dresses. If she found something she loves and will actually wear again, go for it.

My mom brought a couple of options and asked which she should wear. She seemed happiest about the black pantsuit with sparkles, so I told her to wear that. Actually, both moms and DH's grandmom wore black as well...so I guess it's not a big deal any more.

Now, if only someone could have taken DH's grandmom's gnarly pink Vera Bradley purse out of her hands before she walked down the aisle....eeeesh. Tacky!

Both the MOB and MOG are wearing black in our wedding even though our colors are black and fuchsia. I think its your preference. I agree with a lot of women here black is a comfort color for most women.

Don't pay attention to the old-fashioned schmaltz on wedding dressing. As long as they look lovely, I think black is okay. You may want to get each of them a beautiful stand-out corsage to match your bouquet so they will stand out. I'm sure it all will be lovely. Good luck to you and don't worry. Lise'

You should say something if it bothers you, my FMIL was looking at black dresses while we were out a while ago, and I mentioned that I didn't want her to wear black (actually, I kind of blurted something about I thought she liked me, why is she dressing for a funeral... lol), so now she's looking at colours if it's not custom fit, maybe DB will let her exchange it for another colour?

It used to be a "no no" to wear black to weddings, but now it is one of the most popular colors.

A lot of these "no no" to certain colors are so out of date that I personally wouldn't stress it. Take the Royal Wedding for example, the MOH wear white, like the bride, and wouldn't you think of all the families in the world that the Queen of England would have said something about the etiquette thing. I am guessing she didn't disapprove since the MOH wore white. If we didn't get so hung up on these very old traditions we wouldn't be so stressed about our day. Focus on ourselves and FH and forget the rest as long as we are married to the love of our life.

Lol..our parents and grandparents do the absolute most when it's time for us to get married.If you think that's something my mommy in-law wants to wear a hat to our wedding:/ and she's not even the hat wearing person!

Well my bridesmaids are gonna be in black most likely...so I would have no problem with my mother in black. It does start to feel off though...but HEY it's YOUR wedding. If you don't mind...don't cause the drama =)