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Savvy October 2016

My mom wants me to change my dress

Amanda, on August 23, 2016 at 11:59 PM

Posted in Etiquette and Advice 159

So I already picked out my wedding dress. I fell in love with and even started crying. I bought it and showed my mom and she hates it. She has been telling me I look fat, like a mushroom, I'm too short, and keeps sending me all these pictures of wedding dresses I should wear. I don't know what to...

So I already picked out my wedding dress. I fell in love with and even started crying. I bought it and showed my mom and she hates it. She has been telling me I look fat, like a mushroom, I'm too short, and keeps sending me all these pictures of wedding dresses I should wear. I don't know what to do. I felt so confident but now I don't. I don't want to look fat and bad on my wedding day..


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    Savvy October 2016
    Amanda ·
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    Omg everyone just gave me so much confidence! Like for real! I'm a mother of two and don't always feel so thin! Thank you to everyone who said I have a nice body. I just had a baby a year ago and don't feel like I'm losing weight at all! lol.

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    Beginner December 2016
    Cillie ·
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    Girl it's your day not hers she is not getting married you are put your foot down and tell her that your keeping the dress if she gets mad she will live there's a saying in my family I can only please one person a day and today I'd not your day lmao girl if it's the dress of your dreams get it don't let anyone not even your mother talk you out of it keep the dress

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  • A
    Savvy October 2016
    Amber ·
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    You look stunning. Knock them dead!

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  • 2ndTime
    Super October 2017
    2ndTime ·
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    You look gorgeous in that dress. Really.

    Beyond that... You are the wearer of the dress, not your mom, so what she says doesn't matter. Period. Tell her how she is hurting your feelings and then tell her to stop. By giving you this negative garbage in your head, she is demonstrating narcissistic behavior, and that is HER issue, not yours.

    You look beautiful!

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  • Erin381
    Master September 2016
    Erin381 ·
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    If anything - I think the cut flatters your curves. Tell mom to shush and some birches on the Internet told you that you look banging.

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  • O&L
    VIP September 2016
    O&L ·
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    You look beautiful! Keep your head up high! Don't let her get to you!

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  • Nicpartyof5
    Super July 2017
    Nicpartyof5 ·
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    I think you look amazing. The dress is gorgeous. Your mom needs to pump the breaks! This is your day and if that's the dress you feel beautiful and content in, so be it!

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  • Melody
    Master April 2017
    Melody ·
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    You look amazing! Very pretty

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    Dedicated November 2016
    Rebecca ·
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    You look so gorgeous!

    Does your mum maybe need a new prescription for her glasses?

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  • Elizabeth
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    Elizabeth ·
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    Does your mom have correct vision?? Bc holy moly you look amazing in that dress!! It honestly looks like it was made for you. Sorry, bit idk wtf your mom has going on, but she's obviously projecting her issues onto you. Also- I'm not just saying this. I literally said "damn!!" when i saw the pics. You rock that dress, girl!!

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  • StephanieNaz
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    StephanieNaz ·
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    I have some choice words for your mother. You look awesome.

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  • LuvBeingMarried2Him!
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    LuvBeingMarried2Him! ·
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    I'm sorry but you need to take your mom to the nearest eye doctor immediately.. Ummmmmmmmmmmmmm no Mom... AMAZING!!! Your body looks GREAT.. No no no keep the DRESS!!! I'm sorry, I'm sure your mom is a lovely person but these comments she's made to make you feel bad make her sound like a real peach!

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  • Maui K
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    Maui K ·
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    You don't look like a mushroom! You look beautiful Smiley smile

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  • Diva Bride 2 Be
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    Diva Bride 2 Be ·
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    So srry that Mother reacted & behave that way towards u. So it's ur WD & ur dress!Sometimes; u have (family & friends) wit strong opinions, but what really matters is U & FH feelings. So if this ur dress (really looks pretty; fits like glove) keep it. Ur Mom needs a reality check tho. I was helpful. Congrats:-)

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  • Elizabeth
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    Elizabeth ·
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    I can't stop thinking about this. I'm so sorry your mom said those things. That's so hurtful... "Mushroom" "fat" "short". For real?? Come on, ma...

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    Savvy October 2016
    Amanda ·
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    Thank you everyone. I love my mom but she and I obviously had two different visions on what I was going to wear and if I thought I looked fat in it I would of never bought it.

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    Savvy October 2016
    Amanda ·
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    And I don't have any good pictures of the front besides the one in the comments with me facing the mirror.

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    Savvy October 2016
    Amanda ·
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    Thank you Elizabeth. I was caught of guard how she was saying these things to me. She had always been picky about my weight. I always just blew it off but I wasn't able to this time. Especially when it had to do with my wedding dress.

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  • Elizabeth
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    Elizabeth ·
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    Exactly!! You wouldn't have bought it if you didn't feel beautiful in it. Hang in there!

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  • MrsMamaP
    Expert July 2016
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    I legit wish I could have rocked a dress like that as great as you are! Unfortunately for me though, these hips don't lie! =O

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