My little sister (MOH) is being such a brat!!!! *vent*

Let her know that you'll return the favor at her wedding. That usually tends to work.

I'll call her "Sally". Sally & I have been friends for 10 years. When I asked my girls to be a part of the occasion, everyone was very excited. Everything was fine until we met w/ the bridal party. We advised we have not decided if the guys will wear suits or tuxedo, but very clear that the girls will wear floor length dress (black skirt lace bodice in eggplant, crimson, winter blue winter green/dark chocolate (tentative) for the ceremony & black/white tea length dress w/ cap sleeves She immediately decided she did not like any of those colors/styles & started a discussion. I allowed her to speak & advised would take it under consideration. The next day, her & I met for lunch. I explained that I did not appreciate how she handled herself & advised that the decision re: the BM dresses has been made. She continued to want to discuss the matter. At the end of the lunch, she was no longer a BM.

Continued

I was saddened that I had to make the decision, but it is my day.

Your situation is very different & is more sensitive. May I say:

Your sister may be feeling a little envious/jealous. I have seen the green-eyed bandit appear during the planning of many weddings. Pull her aside and tell her how you feel. If that doesn't work, you can consider getting your parents involved. If that's not an option, for your own sanity/piece of mind, if it gets worse, you may have to cut her with love.

Is there any way you can go halfsies with her to help pay for the dress? that way it's kind of like meeting in the middle & then hopefully both of you are happy :].

Yeah if it were my sister [which obviously we all have different relationships, I know] I would either pay for it, offer to help pay for it, or last ditch effort consult the parents, lol.

Agree with Stephanie & Sarah.. but also, have you considered giving her a different dress? I wanted a different dress for my MOH so she would stand out (didn't happen that way.. I'll probably pin a flower to her dress though). I've seen it done before and it looks nice!

Being a bridesmaid before, I totally understand where she is coming from! I was lucky enough to find a dress for $75 (which for me, was still a lot of money) for a dress, but it was a green dress. I donated it after the wedding because there's just nowhere to wear a green bridesmaid dress when the wedding is said and done.

If you are already allowing them all to pick there own dress have I would have her see what other dresses she can find in the same color and style you have requested (most places will sell you a fabric swatch for a low price) let her know that the color has to match exactly. If none come up tell her that she has to chose from the designer that you want.

@Jen-I have two MOH (my little sis and my best friend) my best friend is going to be the one standing directly behind me, in the" traditional" MOH position. I want everyone to match.

Like I said, I already feel as though I'm giving the girls a little bit of freedom by letting them choose their dresses. But like the saying goes, you give someone an inch and they want to take a mile.

I didn't have a bridal party. Just a MOH, which was my sister. My sister was an absolute delight to work with from the beginning. [insert sarcasm here]

I gave her the option to choose whatever dress she wants. She wanted until 2 months before the wedding to ever look for anything (even after numerous attempts to take her on shopping trips.) I finally dragged her out of the house and dealt with her poopy attitude for 3 hours while I shopped and found her dress. (I also paid for it)

Don't kick her out, you'll regret it later in life. Just suck it up, talk with your mom if need be to get your sister in line. If you can pay for a portion of the dress it might help the situation.

Yeah I definitely don't believe in kicking people out of the wedding party.

I'm sorry to hear your going through this! But remember this is your wedding and if she wants to miss the most important day of your and her life. Because of money then she don't need to be in it. Because she's being selfish and only thinking about herself. I'm sure she bought plenty things before and only use it or worn it once. I'm sure this wont be the 1st! ...justsaying

@Shida. "I'm sure she bought plenty of thing before and only used it or worn it once"

You made me think back. I bought a shirt in Italy that was $50. I thought it was very cute, but I never wore it while I was there and didn't feel comfortable enough to wear it back here in the states (It shows off the whole midriff). Yes it was a shirt, and yes it was only $50, but I never wore it. I'm sure everyone has something that they think of later and bought it for no reason. A dress for someones wedding at least gets used once, so while you may not feel you are getting your money out of it, at least it gets used.

I would talk to her, she's being very selfish! I was a BM for my sister's wedding and although I wasnt crazy about the dress that she picked I still shut my mouth, bought it and wore it with a big smile on my face.. because it was HER day. Now Im getting married and I know my sister doesnt like the BM dress that is picked for my wedding, but she hasnt said anything, she's bought the dress and I know she will have a big smile on her face when its time, because its MY day.

Double post! sorry!

When is her birthday? If it is before then I say a gift card for the shop they are purchasing from might help do the trick. Or say you will pay half but that is her gift for being a bridesmaid? I mean she'd probably spend a hundred to buy a newdress for your wedding if she wasn't a MOH so she can spend her $100 and you can spend the rest but as part of another gift to her.

For Christmas I gave my sister a card that said. I am paying for your accomodations the night of our wedding. Cause I know she already has to pay for a dress and gas and stuff.

Her birthday is actually this weekend!! Thanks so much @goodkarmatwins

I never would have thought about that!