My husband has a very low sex drive? :'(

Mayra I have this exact problem. My fiance just has a low sex drive/low testosterone levels. It does suck and he tries to do what he can, I know he loves and is attracted to me and that we just have different sex drives so we try to compromise and if not, I do it alone

Maybe he is having anxiety related to his performance or perhaps he is having issues with getting an erection when having sex or not being able to orgasm. If that happens to a man, they freak out and may just avoid it altogether. Him rubbing one out may be the only relief he can get. Really sounds like performance anxiety to me. Sorry for my language, I really hope he gets all better soon.

I have a very similar issue- but the moment I suggest "cutting off" all-together for awhile he freaks out (I suggested abstaining for a few months before the wedding). In my mind I went by that saying "you always want what you can't have". The less I press for it (even though it's tough sometimes) the better it is when we actually have it. I also suggest bath/hot tub if you can, we had one in our room for a mini-vacation we took and it was awesome.

I don't know if the advice is the best, it's just what is working for right now.

Gotta be honest here... if he is waxing the pole... then its YOU!.. he's lying.. he has the desire to seek out porn, get an erection and masturbate.. when you are right there to do that for him... Not good!

Sorry, I only read about the first page and a half of comments, then glimpsed over the rest, so if I am already repeating someone please forgive me -

You had mentioned him masturbating in the a.m., perhaps that is when we is most aroused? Maybe if you tried to be intimate with him in the morning instead of at other times in the day he would be more responsive.

Im young but this is my second marriage and my ex husband was going through the same thing when we tried to find out what was wrong the dr. said it was his hormones its a chemical in a pregnant woman that make a man hormones go the oppisite way it sounds funny right. He put it to me like how we pms the man is experiencing kinds the same problem but in a man way

From my experience, guys masturbate and it's not because they lack desire for their partner. It sounds like a medical issue that I would get checked out. It could be stress related, depression, low test. , that sort of thing. Maybe you guys need to try something new out in the bedroom. Grab some toys and porn (or not, don't get on my case for suggesting the porn!) and give that a try.

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Masturbating can be less about "drive" and more about "escape." A husband who's rubbing it out on the regular but having trouble laying the pipe with his spouse may be using the endorphin release of ejaculation to give him some relief, however briefly, from whatever else is bothering him. (Though this isn't universally the case, pretty much all women DON'T GET THIS as being a possibility. "We had sex all the time when we were dating," they say, not realizing that the pressure wasn't on their men back then, like it is now.)

In my own personal experience, having been laid off from three different jobs during the course of my career (and becoming increasingly unable to match my earnings to the expenses of having a spouse and a home and all the bills that come with each), I have the sense that I am a disappointment to my beautiful wife. Therefore, asking for sex is difficult for me nowadays (unlike how things were for us when we were younger), because I feel less worthy of it.

So, jacking it is a painkiller that I'm hooked on. I don't do drugs, I'm not alcoholic, I can keep money in my pocket, I don't gamble, I don't stare at the TV all day, I take pride in my appearance and I don't cheat on my wife. Explore your marriage, from the standpoint of what's going wrong in your man's life -- in my case, it's lying awake at night and worrying about bills I can't cover any more, that her (very good) job is picking up my slack on. What's his?

Also, bear in mind -- many men are better able to get it up in the mornings, before the stresses of the day and the drop in testosterone levels as the day wears on kill most chances of that. My Other Half is a night girl, while I used to be a morning person (and am now simply a crappy sleeper), so we have a tough time synching up our desire. When are you putting your moves on him? Would he be more receptive at another part of the day? Just a thought. Best of luck.