Ok, I know. Here is another crazy, controlling bride. But hear me out.
My fiance has decided that he would like a woman to be his best man. I have never met her, they've known each other for 5 years, and she lives in another state.
I am TOTALLY cool with this. However, part of me isn't. He has admitted to me before he used to have feelings for her while they were in college, and they went out a few times and because of that, having her as best man makes me feel uncomfortable (despite my logical self telling me it isn't a big deal) They haven't been friends for as long as some other people he wants there, and the fact she's in a completely different state adds another layer of difficulty in planning and coordination. Personally, I would feel more comfortable as a groomsman. PLEASE know that I haven't said anything to him yet about this since I want to be extremely sure this is something worth bringing up.
Am I valid for feeling this way? I don't want to stifle him or be THAT bride.