My fiancé doesn't want to invite any oh his family to our wedding.

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Maybe see if he's ok with just inviting a few cousins at least? or a favorite aunt/uncle? there are a lot of people in my family im inviting that i don't want to deal with, but it still wouldn't be the same if they weren't there...

I can understand his hesitation if he's had nothing but grief from his family. I wouldn't let it make or break your guest list. Some people just don't have good family experiences with their own family. He might think your family is good enough for him. I personally would let it go.

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If he doesn't want his family there, respect that. My H is very close to all his family, and I'm just sorta close to my family. I could up and move 4 states away and not worry about it, he refuses to leave the city we're in. We just view and value family in different ways.

If you bringing it up constantly is upsetting him, let it go. If his family never forgives him, that's for him to deal with (and I'm not sure it would matter if his family has also crossed him.) You have a while before you even need to send out invites, so leave it be until summer. At that time, he can decide for sure what he wants to do.

If he doesn't want to invite them, then you gotta let it go. It could be more stressful on him having them there and he is probably thinking he wants to enjoy his wedding day with you. Not everyone is close with their family. Sad, but true.

My girlfriend got married two years ago and she didn't invite any of her family or her parents (and they are both alive and well) because of personal reasons. She still doesn't regret her decision and said her wedding day was perfect just how it was.

My FH had been closed off from his family/relatives most of his life due to his mother. He does not know any of his relatives and his parents are not allowed at the wedding. It was hard for me to imagine it too with my FH and I felt like a traditional big wedding would be awkward for him since my family is huge, so we decided on a destination wedding to make it a much smaller and more intimate wedding. We are both very happy with our decision.

I don't see the problem. If he doesn't want them there than so be it. Respect his wishes.

Thanks guys. I agree. I just made a spread sheet with all the guests we've talked about. We are sending out save the dates in like a month. I am going to give him a copy and tell him to add anyone I forgot. If family isn't on there fine. I don't care so much if they are there or not I just don't want him to regret it later on.

He can always invite people even if they didn't get a Save the Date. He has time to mull it over and change his mind if he chooses.

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If he doesn't like his family, I'd say that's his call. I'm really close to my family, but my FH has a bad family life too. His mom is currently on the guest list, but I'll be really surprised if she stays on it. None of his other family members are invited. As long as he has friends to support him, I think it's okay.

My FI also isn't close with his family and neither of his parents will be attending our destination wedding. I am very close to my family so it does feel a little weird that he doesn't have much support on his end, but we have good friends coming and the people we feel the most comfortable with will be there so that's all that matters. Respect his decision. You'll be happier and he will be more relaxed and you can just enjoy your day.

Speaking from someone who is going through family issues myself...I can totally understand why he may not want them there. It's hard to know what to say with not knowing what the problem was or why. All I can say is it's his family, his decision. You will just have to trust him to make wise choices. All you can do in this situation is to support his feelings even if you may not understand fully.

FH and his brother havent spoken in years either...for something really stupid and 100% not FH fault. I encouraged FH to call and try to make peace. It took awhile and he finally did but his brother wont return his calls. If the other side doesnt try to repair the situation there really is only so much you can do :/

I think you need to sit him down and get more clarification.... his mom is gone... if his dad is capable maybe he could come, but it can be iffy...people do understand!!!


I don't know his circumstances, butvyou are marrying a family, not just the person. It's really important to get it right. I made the biggest mistake of my life when I got married...and I've lived a difficult life, when it could have been amazing.
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He gets as much of a say in who comes as you do. His reasons for not wanting his people there are just as valid as your reasons for wanting your people there. Why force the issue if it doesn't bring him joy. Maybe one of the things he loves about you is your family! Maybe just being in their company is good enough for him? I don't have family at all. Most are dead, the rest are dead to me. I don't have a single family member coming to our wedding but I've embraced his family as mine & I am honest to goodness content with having them & a few of our closest friends there to celebrate with us. My fiance has brought it up a couple times "hey, do you want to invite so & so?" I also grimace at the topic because I've made my peace with whatever situation made me stay away from that person & I'd rather not rehash it. I've told him a good portion of the why I don't talk to people. I think he was being polite & asking. I told him I don't want to include them in anything. They've done me too wrong for too long. Do him a favor & leave well enough alone. I think most people are the same in that when we've made a hard decision, we tend to stick to it. No life changing event is going to make me backpedal decisions that I've made & I don't feel guilty about it at all. I'm sure he's got his very valid reasons. Love, trust, & respect him & his decisions, even if you don't like them