My cousin wants to propose at my wedding

No your not being selfish! I told my wedding planner and bridal party to not let that happen. I feel like its your time and they should make their own moment

This is a big N-O from me. Happened to a girl I work with - her MOH got engaged at her wedding and no one even cared - because we were busy celebrating my work friend who got married. That is like taking the mic at their wedding and announcing you're pregnant. Why do people feel the need to steal the spotlight on weddings?! Also, if I was his gf and he did that to me I would be soooooo mad!

No girl, this day is about you!!!!!!

@Emily, you also hear everyone say "You only get ONE DAY" When people come on here whining that their brother's friend's uncle's dog is getting married 6 months after them. So yeah...this is OP's ONE DAY.

You should speak up and say no!

Absolutely not.

Absolutely not! Stand your ground and tell him NO...lol Its your day!!

I don't think you are being selfish at all. I would be mortified if someone proposed at or wedding.

I am sorry but for people to propose, announce engagement or pregnancy at someone's wedding is a little rude. It is your day the attention should be on you & your FH. Now if you were announcing something that would be different but for someone else it takes away from y'all.

I hate the idea of people proposing at other people's wedding. It's rude and pretty selfish on their part to me. Maybe I'm selfish too, but I would definitely not want this at my wedding either.

Not selfish. People are there for you and your SO. I would say no and help him come up with something. He'll be pissy, but he'll be ok. He'll also understand once he's engaged.

He should know better. The wedding is about your relationship. She could be embarrassed at the proposal being chosen to be at your event. I've heard of this piggy back thing like request in happy birthday for kids do during cake cutting. No be piggyback on events

No! He needs to plan his own thing!

Nope!

Hell to the no

If it was my sister getting proposed to in front of my entire family I would consider it, not a cousin to his girlfriend. It's a really cute idea and I think I've seen it before also.

No way it's your day

You're not being selfish at all. A wedding is an inappropriate place for someone to propose, and it was in poor taste for your cousin to ask. What he's asking is for you to share your day and the spotlight with him and his girlfriend. The spotlight will absolutely be shifted onto him/them if he proposes, especially if you're having a lot of mutual family members there. The day is not about them. It's about you and your FH. Tell him no.

You could say something like "FH and I just don't feel comfortable with that. I don't think our wedding is the right place, and your girlfriend deserves a special proposal. She shouldn't have to share the spotlight with another woman (the bride) on such a special day."

ETA: if he wants to do it in front of a group, he needs to organize something that is relevant to HER and them/their relationship. Yeah maybe a lot of his family will be at your wedding, but none of hers will be! And none of her friends will be there either. It's selfish of him to want to do that and not consider her position in that scenario.

Fuck no!

Absolutely not. Especially if you feel negative about it now. That feeling won't change in time.

Every bride and groom deserve their spotlight.