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Dedicated September 2017

My cousin wants to propose at my wedding

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Rocio, on April 7, 2017 at 2:43 PM

My cousin who I was very close to in childhood just told me he wants to propose to his girlfriend at my wedding. His plans are to pop out and give her the ring as I hand her the bouquet instead of throwing it to the single ladies at the reception. I love him and her I'm not close with at all. I feel...

I love him and her I'm not close with at all. I feel like they are going to take away some of my time to shine at my wedding. I know that sounds super selfish but I can't help it.

Am I being selfish? Should I just let him do it and be a little salty about it inside lol? Or should I speak up? If I do say something what should I say to him?

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Devoted September 2017
MrsBobby · on April 9, 2017 at 2:20 AM
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This is a no. Not an appropriate time.
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VIP October 2018
Malwen107 · on April 9, 2017 at 2:51 AM
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Nope. your day. Not fair to her either, she deserves a special moment, not in your shadow.
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J · on April 9, 2017 at 2:53 AM
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Uh.. I'd just say no. Pick another day
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Super October 2017
FutureMrsPaldino · on April 9, 2017 at 4:14 AM
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That would be a hard "no" from me. That is your day that you are paying for! They do not get to steal your spotlight. He has 364 other days of the year that he can propose!
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Dedicated April 2017
Audrey · on April 9, 2017 at 4:25 AM
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I love the idea and if I were close to both, I'd probably be very delighted and it wood enhance my day ...and I believe you would be if you were. But the reality is you're not and you're also feeling it would take away from your day. Firstly that's not selfish at all, it IS your day and this would be a very special gift to give him. But a gift with regrets isn't a gift at all. In your position, I'd say No, and I'd say it's a no from both you and your FH! You're a team so it's his wedding to consider too.
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Expert May 2017
LookUpTazGully · on April 9, 2017 at 9:06 AM
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It was thoughtful of him to ask you before doing this. Gives you the opportunity to say no! Imagine if he would have surprised everyone!
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S&P · on April 9, 2017 at 9:27 AM
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Aside from all of the things everyone else said I think this is pretty inconsiderate of his fiancée to be. He's your cousin so his family will all be there, but unless his girlfriend is your FH's cousin or something none of her family will be there. And he put little to no thought into it since you planned everything. I don't know what she's like, but if H proposed to me at a wedding I would be extremely embarrassed.
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FutureMrsN · on April 9, 2017 at 5:15 PM
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I would say no and honestly, if I were her, I would hate that.
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