My cousin wants to propose at my wedding

I would tell him no. I don't think that is appropriate.

This would be a giant NO for me. You and FH get one day that is yours and no one should be taking that away from you. I would tell him no and that he needs to find another day/time to propose to his GF.

To me this always seems like this person wants an elaborate proposal on your dime. Say NO!

I think this can only work if its people that you are SUPER close with and genuinely happy to share the spotlight with. Generally I don't love being the center of attention, but my wedding would not be the place for this unless it was absolutely one of my very best friends or maybe a sibling...

youre not being selfish.;

I would tell him please not to do this, if not for your sake, for his girlfriend's. She deserves her own day and her own special proposal.

I personally would never do this. Call it selfish, but I have not shelled out all this money/time/effort for them. I would tell him, "Thanks for asking, but I want you guys to have your own exciting day and just spend my wedding day enjoying yourself and visiting with family!"

No way that would fly with me.

Also, isn't that just copying a recent viral video proposal??

I would say no, no way!

Oh my god. I am not even a drama queen when it comes to these things, in fact, I don't even care for petty shit but THIS.... NO WAY!! I would straight up say NO, NO, NO. This is your and your fiancé's day. No one should make it about themselves. I have seen this done before and can't fathom this stupidity.

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Nope. You only get one day, and it's perfectly reasonable to not want to share it.

I can't imagine that this would be something his girlfriend would want. I would do as MelissaHH, suggested.

Say exactly what @MelissaHH said. If you do not want him to do it, definitely don't let him and just be salty! No no no

No. You get one day. Your ONE DAY should be about YOU.

Say no in a way that makes him feel like it's for her benefit. "She should get her own special intimate proposal!" The fact that people think this is okay honestly blows my mind.

Thank you all so much! This makes me feel so much better about my gut instinct. I just feel like fh and I have waited so long for this day I want it to be about us. And our family to remember us not my cousin and his proposal.

If he wants to propose to her at your wedding, he can do so in the parking lot.

I don't see anything wrong with a grandparent getting a special dance because it's her 80th birthday, or a couple who just celebrated their 50th anniversary having a few moments in the spotlight, but those spotlight moments don't belong to a man asking his significant other to marry him (it's also a terrible idea -- people do turn down those proposals).

You're not being selfish. You spent a lot of money on this wedding. They'll understand why the whole idea sounds off-putting when they pay for their own wedding.

Here is a moms opinion. I would not want someone to do this at our daughters wedding. It's her and her FH's day. Ask the next day. ??

If you're not ok with it, tell him no. He can find another time to propose. And, if I was his girlfriend, I think I would be extremely uncomfortable being proposed to during someone else's wedding. You could always point out that she may not want to be the center of attention in front of a room of people that she probably doesn't know very well.

At least he asked you if it was ok (or did he?) , this shows that hes probably thinking "I'm not sure if this is a good idea, but ill see what my cousin thinks." It sounds like hes expecting a no. Say what @MelissaHH said, she nailed it.

No way. You deserve your own day and so does she. It's pretty rude of him to even suggest it. Put a squash on it.

I do not think you are being selfish. NO WAY. From all perspectives this is no good. This really is YOUR DAY in this instance. If I were proposed to at a wedding I'd be mortified. I would feel so guilty for having taken away from their day, and then I'd probably be a little mad that my proposal got lumped in to someone else's day. And as @Rachel pointed out, not every proposal ends in a "yes".

Nope, tell him not to do it.