Hi! I am in need of some unbiased advice
So 2 years ago my best friend from College got married and I was her MOH. It was a lot of work and very expensive because she only had 3 bridesmaids, and frankly asked a lot of us. After all was said and done I tallied up the cost and my fiancé and I spent $5k on her wedding festivities. Keep in mind I was only 3 years out of college.. so that was A LOT! I did it because I love her and wanted to make her happy. We were asked by the bride to throw a shower for her side of the family (Boston), plan a destination bachelorette party (Boston), go bridesmaid dress shopping in Boston a year in advance and then a destination wedding in Maine. I live in Texas so expenses added up very fast...
Anyways now it's my turn and so I was planning on making her my MOH, as I was for her, but of course wanted to ask for her thoughts before really asking. So I started by asking how she would feel about being in my wedding and was Floored by her response. She said she was really glad I asked because her and her husband have been trying to get pregnant so she wasn't sure if she would be able to. I was in total shock and honestly speechless... I know plenty of girls who have been in weddings pregnant, in fact she had a pregnant bridesmaid. She said she would think about it and let me know. So we talked about a month after and I asked again.. framing it that if she were pregnant and her Doctor wouldn't let her travel I would totally understand and expect nothing of her & write her in as an honorary bridesmaid. She said that was very sweet of me and would get back to me. It's been 2 months and I have barely heard from her. She said she wanted to be there for me to help and return the favor like I did for her... but it's been crickets. I am so frustrated! I want to call her and take back the invitation and let her know how much my feelings are hurt AND HOW MUCH I SPENT ON HER WEDDING.. But I have just been avoiding her because every time I think about it, I want to cry and I am shaking as I type this...
Thanks girls! Appreciate your insights