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MrsNerd
Master October 2016

My bridesmaid is making me want to cry *update* she "quit"

MrsNerd, on September 1, 2016 at 7:41 PM

Posted in Etiquette and Advice 66

So, I don't have a lot of girlfriends. I have two ladies standing up with me at my wedding. One is full of love and excitement, almost to the point where I sometimes feel like she's annoying (I'm awful, I know). She texts a million times, is sending me decor ideas, and is begging for ways to help. I...

So, I don't have a lot of girlfriends. I have two ladies standing up with me at my wedding. One is full of love and excitement, almost to the point where I sometimes feel like she's annoying (I'm awful, I know). She texts a million times, is sending me decor ideas, and is begging for ways to help. I love her - that's just her personality. The other is just a little bitchy and acts like she doesn't give a shit - but that's just HER personality. I'm aware that her only job is to show up in the dress and have fun. She gave me such a hard time when we were picking dresses, and finally agreed ( she was angry bc she wanted a dress she could wear again, like to work). Well, she just emailed me and said "just letting you know my dress came in" and then a mirror selfie so I could see. She is making the angriest face. What the actual fuck? I wish I had never opted for a bridal party. I haven't responded yet bc I want to say "great, beautiful!" But she's obviously miserable.

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  • Jacks
    Champion November 2054
    Jacks ·
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    When you ask someone if they still want to be in the wedding or not, it sounds to me like you're asking them to quit, honestly. Mrs. Sitszman, that may have been what happened with your friend.

    FutureMrsNerd, I'm really sorry this happened. Over basically a dress. It seems as though your friend may have gotten the impression that you didn't want her in the wedding anymore. I think this calls for a conversation. Is there any way you could offer to pay for the dress? At this point it doesn't matter who is "right. You could both go on being "right" in your own minds but it would mean the demise of your friendship. I'd do whatever I can to not have that happen. Over a wedding. One day. It's really sad, I feel for you.

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  • Kactus Kat
    VIP July 2016
    Kactus Kat ·
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    It's so bizarre that all of this happened over email; next time considering meeting with your friend in person and you could probably avoid this drama.

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  • MrsNerd
    Master October 2016
    MrsNerd ·
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    Tried that @kactuskat

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  • LizzyC
    Master April 2016
    LizzyC ·
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    I'm sorry she completely blew you off when you tried to meet up Mrs Nerd, that doesn't make it any easier :/

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  • Ali
    Master June 2017
    Ali ·
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    I am sorry you are going through this, honestly though you sound better off without her drama.

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  • K
    Just Said Yes January 2019
    Kelly ·
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    Ok, but even when you're nice and give options, listen to their ideas and consider them, give empathy, it can bite you in the ass later on with certain types of bridmesaids who grow jealous and bitter. If you're paying the thousands for it, you can make official decisions. 👍
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