My bridesmaid is making me want to cry *update* she "quit"

I'm not completely unsympathetic, but you chose her. You say that "she's a little bitchy and acts like she doesn't give a shit but that's just HER personality," so you perhaps knew she would be bitchy about something?

At least she got the dress. Give her props for that. She's allowed to not like the dress, but at least she's going to wear it.

I guess I stupidly thought she would try to not be difficult for my wedding You're right though, my own fault i guess.

So she's acting the way she always acts? You say that's her personality, why would it change now?

She's not usually a bitch to ME. She's obviously my friend.

I agree with T-Rex, if that is truly her personality then you must have expected something like that. BUT, if I were you I would totally call her out.

I'd say, "I chose you to be a part of my wedding because it's important to me. But when you look completely miserable about how I'm doing things, it hurts my feelings and makes me think you don't want to be a part of it."

Then see what she says...

So, true story. I dated a guy that was a total asshole - but he wasn't an asshole to me. At least, that's how I justified it. Then he WAS an asshole to me and did a horrible thing.

I blame myself. I should've known better.

Maybe she just has resting bitch face.

I think you should respond to the pic and say it looks beautiful on you and leave it at that. The reason being is because you dont want to start any unnecessary drama. At least she got the dress and try not to let her bitchy attitude get to you.

One of my bridesmaids sent me a selfie of herself in her dress when it came in. She was making a really weird face but it had nothing to do with how she felt - she was just trying to get a picture of the dress. Maybe you're just overreacting a tiny bit?

Girl, you can't control how other people act, you can only control how you respond.

Let them be who they are!! Let it go and enjoy the process. They both said yes when you asked so they obviously want to be there!

Yes I agree with katelina1!! I want to know she will say after that. Being honest is the best thing you can do.

Just emailed and said "You look beautiful! What do you think?" I know that last sentence was a mistake...

@samantha, that's all she's supposed to do is stand next to you in a dress.

Umm, yeah. Just get thru the wedding. Be thankful that she's even got the dress and ready to stand up there for you! I ended up having my MOH not even show up when we were supposed to look at dresses.

I should've said, my friend that was supposed to be my MOH. We ended up not having a wedding party at all.

I agree with speaking your mind. And remember it's YOUR wedding. You make the rules. They follow. Planning a wedding is stressful enough you Definitely dont need to deal with attitudes from other people. Give her 2 words IN or OUT

@Mrs. Hallman, " You make the rules. They follow" ?!?!

This isn't a dictatorship.

I actually sent her an email awhile back, because she was just acting really unhappy with everything. I had emailed both bridesmaids to offer that (if they want) they could have their hair done, on me. This isn't their "gift" obviously, and their hairstyles are up to them, but I thought it would be fun and I wanted to offer. She was pretty fussy and wanted a hair trial because she didn't think my hairstylist would know how to work with her hair. So, after that, and after the dress stuff (she wanted one she could throw a sweater over and wear to work) I sent an email saying "I know you have a lot going on, and I feel like this wedding is causing you so much stress. I just want you to be there with me and have fun" thinking maybe she would realize how she was making me feel, or (hopefully not) give her an out she was looking for. She responded "Don't worry, just super busy, everyone will have fun." So I guess things are ok. Until this email, which I may be overreacting to? Ugh.

@JessInLove I'm with you 100%. I'm not trying to make anyone do anything, or work, or be stressed. I just wanted her to stand with me and have fun. I actually changed the kind of dress I wanted because she wasn't happy with my original idea (long, peach - she said she doesn't look good in peach). I'd rather have a different dress than an unhappy friend in a peach dress.

Samantha - how is your sister being self-centered? Just because she's honest and doesn't want to throw you a party doesn't mean she's self-centered. Some people have zero desire to be bridesmaids.

Mrs.Nerd - again, she's going to be there. She's also saying the same things many bridesmaids think but don't actually say. But she's still going to be there. That's something good to see.

I agree with responding and saying it looks beautiful