My bridesmaid is making me want to cry *update* she "quit"

@T-Rex, I guess I thought she had one job other than show up, and that was to act happy for me and NOT say those things haha. I am glad she will still be there with me.

Mrs.Hallman, in no way are you correct. "You make the rules, they follow"? Are you the queen or something? You do realize that your wedding party is there for you to honour them, right? Not the other way round. I'd check that attitude before it gives you problems with you nearest and dearest.

Listen, she won't make that bitchy face when she's walking the aisle. A photographer will be in her face, and she's going to want to look good. Ignore her...seriously, push her protestations aside (and no, there is no BM dress that is work appropriate unless she's an actress who can use her dress on stage).

Let it go, sweetheart. Let it go. Your wedding will be fabulous, and she will rise to the occasion.

Centerpeice - you would think that - but look at spazzy's bridesmaid in her group shots B looked miserable

You would be inclined to think she'll act happy day of but my MOH had serious stank face in 90% of pics.

Just try to not let her bring you down, OP

@notTHATerin I just looked at all spazzy's pictures again haha. It's a real credit to her that she and her husband were so adorable, and her wedding was so beautiful, that I didn't even notice the B face!

@Jacks YES! I am the Queen and I definitely will be on that day! It's MY wedding day and I will have plan it how I wish. Whoever is not on board can sure as hell jump off. It makes no difference to me because either way Im still getting married. And someone giving me trouble about the dress I would like for them to wear isn't flying with me. I have enough to worry about so I don't have time for Bridesmaidzilla's So as I said. I make the rules. **flips hair**

Ps. @jessinlove @Jacks. OP asked for opinions. NOT I.

But @MrsHallman, it's fair of them to tell you that you're way wrong.

ETA you were commenting on my post and being supportive, and I thank you for that. But I don't really agree with your attitude on how to treat loved ones on your wedding day.

I agree @MrsNerd. Im not saying treat them horribly. I just dont think that its fair for her to give you attitude either. If they were your real friend (not saying that she isn't) she should be doing everything to make your day easier. Its no fair to stress you out even more. I have 7 girls. And they are ALL awesome to me. As I am to them. I just will have that attitude if I give it 1st. My goal is to stay as stress free as possible.

You know your friends personality, I'd just let it go

My sister was the same way with the whole dress experience.

She finally agreed to the dress everyone else loved, but she's not happy about it.

But....she agreed so I ran with it and that's that.

Real queens have class and don't announce to the world that they're queens. Just sayin'.

#historymajor

#thesiswrittenonBritishmonarch

This is why only mt sister is my bridesmaid. She's my sis and she is so excited about it. I was going to have two others but i didn't want the drama at any point. Don't worry you only have a few more weeks to deal with this and it'll be the big day.

If it's really bothering you, I'd take @Katelina's advice.

If it's not, but you want to drop a hint maybe go with a "It looks beautiful but it would look so much better with a smile! I appreciate you standing by my side on such a big day for me and agreeing to be my bridesmaid. I know it's a lot to ask." Maybe she needs to be made to feel like you appreciate her, and also reminded that this is a special day for you. If she can't feel that, she needs to opt out.

She just emailed me. At this point I'm open to suggestions on how to actually respond. I'm very tempted to say "clearly you don't like the dress. Please tell me what your problem is." But that isn't the most gracious response. I'm at work and too busy to be upset over this shit.

Why is one of your best friends someone you say "is bitchy and doesn't give a shit "?

@mrsHallman. Just, no. You sound insufferable. What a horrible attitude to have about the people closest to you that you're supposed to be honoring. With friends like you...

@chrissy I meant that she was acting bitchy and like she doesn't give a shit. I have no idea why, and at this point I'm a little baffled, since when I got engaged she's the one who said "so...are you having bridesmaids?"

I think she is just trying to figure out if it's what you want. She might not like the dress, but from what I read she is definitely trying not to straight up tell you since you like it. I say, if it fits your vision then go for it. After all, it is one day and I would wear a dress that I don't like for one night and then get over it.

I think both of you are handling this really well and everything will work out! You got this!

Eta: words are hard

Just respond that she looks beautiful and ignore the resting bitch face!