Mr and Mrs pronouncement

I don't see the issue. It's a traditional and formal way of introducing a married couple. It has nothing to do with identity, it's just tradition. I think this is getting blown WAY out of proportion.

I agree. It should be Mr. Abd Mrs. Last name. I am sure you can talk to the person who is marrying you and ask them to prounc it the way you want.

View Quoted Comment This is an advice and etiquette board. So there is a place here for advising someone how to correctly state a title when making an introduction. It does not make me the grammar police, any more than someone suggesting the proper way to word an invitation makes them the usage police. The point is information. Use it or not, but it helps to know the proper form before deciding what to do.

View Quoted Comment Aaahh, and see the wonderful thing is you CAN have it both ways. By taking his last name you keep the tradition, but by acknowledging your own first name you keep your identity. It's a win-win! Besides, when u sign documents you wont sign them with his first name, so why be announced with it? You can definitely have your cake and eat it too 😊

I am in the minority here, lol. We were introduced as Mr and Mrs James Johnson and I didn't care, in fact it was my idea, lol. I am totally cool with who I am.

View Quoted Comment Yeah I totally agree with this lol, this was not what I meant at all, I was just wondering if i was the only one who personally didn’t like it 😂

View Quoted Comment As the person who made the original post I agree that it is getting way blown out of proportion hahaha I just didn’t like how it sounded personally I am not like angry about the fact that some people do it hahaha

View Quoted Comment Exactly lol

As a (raging) feminist, one of the entire points of feminism is choice. I have no problem with women who choose to be called Mrs. John Smith, as long as they are going into the choice knowing it's origins and what it means and how it's interpreted. But when people do it "because you're supposed to" or "because it's tradition" or "because it's etiquette" and say it "doesn't really mean anything" or "It's just terminology" I get ragey. We have fought so hard for the ability to make these choices, and still have a long way to go before they're fully accepted, it's degrading to all women to say it doesn't matter and it's "just the way it's done".

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Totally agree.

We addressed all of our envelopes as "Mr. and Mrs. John Doe" and I don't see a problem with it. Everyone realizes they have their own identity.. Or at least I hope they do. I'm taking FH's last name because I want to, but I'm not going to become him... I'm still my own person. Lol

My fiancé and I laugh that it takes away my identity, but I’m still being announced that way. It doesn’t bother me as much, because it is just a way to announce a married couple.

A name doesnt take away my identity. I think, thinking that is an old fashion way of thinking. I think of it as an honor.

I have been called so and so daughter, so and so friend, so and so mom, so and so girlfriend. My identity is still mine.

If you don’t like it, don’t go for it!

Completely agree!!! It’s never sounded right to me!

I never hesitated about taking my husband's last name, but "Mrs. John Doe" does still irk me!! I'm totally down to declare this officially outdated! As revenge I think I'm going to start referring to my husband as "Mr. WeddingWire Lynnie" from now on.

But to actually answer your question - we went with being introduced as "Mr and Mrs Doe"!