Mr and Mrs pronouncement

View Quoted Comment A name doesn't make you a family.

Absolutely agree. I can’t stand any of these antiquated “traditions” that do nothing more than belittle and marginalize women.

It doesn't bother me, I'm relatively traditional.

What about just hisfirst + yourfirst + last name ? eliminate the MR & rs. and just say "Mr & Mrs. Bob & Sally Smith" or something?

I was at a wedding this weekend where they said Mr and Mrs his first his last and I immediately though NO WAY in my head! To each their own, but I’m not losing my first name or my last name, just adding his last name so I want what is said at our wedding to reflect that. I will never be okay with being called Mrs. FH first and last name because that’s not my name.

Definitely hate the Mr. and Mrs. husbandsname. Taking a last name does not mean taking his first name as well and becoming absorbed into his identity. It's definitely one of those outdated traditions that will be on its way out soon (I hope! lol).

I like seeing how everyone else plans on having their names announced!

We are being announced as "Mr & Mrs (groom name) & (bride name) (last name)

View Quoted Comment I didn’t say that, I said I wanted us to share a family name

I don't think it is a big deal at all. I am happy to be his Mrs! And I think of it more as a formal family name.

Yup, i had our officiant only say the last mr and mrs doe, evne though i didnt change my last name.. shrug

View Quoted Comment That’s actually not true. “Mrs.” stands for “wife of” so to call someone “Mrs. John Smith” your calling her the wife of John Smith. So “Mrs. Maidenname” is incorrect.

We are both old-fashioned and we will be introduced as Mr. and Mrs. William Montgomery Matthews. I don't feel like chattel and we are adhearing to the old traditional vows, as well. Just a matter of preference. Plus, it goes with our vintage, Victorian theme in the 158 year old church where we will marry.

Everyone should just do whatever they feel is more pleasing to their ears.

There is literally no one policing this.

Side note. I don't think it's okay to bash the idea of a female being happy to be called Mrs. John Doe by insisting its a dated tradition that should be faded out. It makes it sound like you think HER choice to do so is wrong and somehow takes away who she is.
(not referring to the original post but some of the comments that followed.)

View Quoted Comment Because that would be grammatically incorrect. Mr. & Mrs. Smith is fine. But if you want to use both first names, Mr. Bob Smith and Mrs. Sally Smith. Or even, Mr. Robert and Mrs. Sally Smith. but you do not separate both titles from the names. . Proper grammar: You would never say the beautiful and ugly Maria and her bulldog walked up the sidewalk toward us. You keep the modifier with the noun it describes. The beautiful Maria and her ugly bulldog... correct usage. Each title clings to the name it refers to. Everyday, grammar is not first on your mind. But for someone making a social introduction to a group of people, it is worth being grammatically correct.

View Quoted Comment Most important is that people respect you enough to address you as you choose, not according to their opinions .

I agree with 100% i hate the outdated way .... I prefer the modern Mr and Mrs _______. Way better

I'm not taking FH's last name legally, but I'm fine with using it socially among family and friends. We asked the officiant to introduce us as Mr. and Mrs. Hisfirstname and Myfirstname Hislastname. I'm not planning a big entrance into the reception so that's the only time it will come up.

View Quoted Comment Yes, Judith, I totally agree. Each person, or couple, has to make the right choice for them.

View Quoted Comment I think your response was a bit rude. Her question was more about he sentiment....and that’s what I was responding to.

Glad I didn’t have to invite the grammar police to my wedding 🙄

View Quoted Comment The origin of Mrs. Is an abbreviation for Mistress, the mistress or female head of the household, whether a widow, divorcee, or currently a wife. And Mistress was correct whether there was also a male head of household, as husband and wife, or if she remained head of the household though no longer had a spouse. That is why a divorced woman traditionally goes from Mrs. John Smith to Mrs. Mary Smith. The title of Mistress or Mrs. does not mean currently married. It does exactly mean wife. When two women marry, either or both may use Mrs. with their birth name. Whether or not a woman who does not change her name can swap to Mrs. Birthname is something different Style books and etiquette people have always disagreed about. When in England, where aristocratic titles matter, ir where some men traditionally would take the name of the bride's father to join the family business or have access to big money, man changes to Mr. Wifefamilyname. And woman changes from Miss to Mrs. Her family name. So centuries of that in England and thus part if accepted English language. That male name change over family money and property common in Europe, happened far less often here, but the law always allowed it. So, not right or wrong, Mrs. Birth and, precedent for both.

* Mrs. does NOT exactly mean wife.* correction of above