Mr and Mrs pronouncement

We’re doing Mr and Mrs Kevin and Dani LastName. Might not be correct, but I didn’t want to lose my first name in that introduction!

View Quoted Comment Oh yeah I would absolutely respect if someone wanted to be addressed as that, and I would totally not judge them for it. This post was mostly just me wondering if I was weird for personally feeling weird about it and not liking it myself!

View Quoted Comment That's what happens when you change your name...

I personally don't mind it. It's probably the only time I'll be refered to as Mrs. John Doe 🤷‍♀️

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This is what we did too. You just have to tell the DJ (or whoever is introducing you) how you want to be introduced.

We just went to a wedding where it was “Mr and Mrs John and Jane doe” and it didn’t sound weird at all so we’re going to do it that way too

We were introduced as Mr. J and Mrs. M Last Name as well.

I don't like it either. I don't care about the tradition of it. It was also traditional for women to never show their knees or be able to vote 😒 If you want to be introduced and addressed that way, more power to you. Many of us do not.

I'm happily taking his last name, but I would literally stop in the middle of the announcement and yell at the MC if he said, Mr. And Mrs. Ethan Last name. No ma'am no sir.

You totally can be introduced however you want, ladies!!! There's no rule about this! We were pronounced husband and wife and then during our intro, we were introduced as Mr. And Mrs Joe and Tiffany Rusnak. Because we chose it that way.

We're doing Mr. and Mrs. Fh and Munckin newlastname. I don't suddenly disappear just because I am married. Lots of people just to do just Mr. and Mrs. Lastname or Mr. and Mrs. H and W last name since the woman loosing her identity is incredibly outdated.

Why not drop the Mr and Mrs in the introduction and just be introduced as John and Jane Doe?

How about:

"For the first time as husband and wife, John and Jane!"

"For the first time as husband and wife, John and Jane Smith!"

Oh, and I didn't change my name, and "Mrs." is never an appropriate title for me. So it doesn't make a lot of sense to say "Introducing Mr. John Smith and Ms. Jane Jones!"....because that's exactly what our names have always been.

View Quoted Comment Well put. You cant have your cake and it too. If you want traditional then you get called by your Mrs husband name first and last. If you dont want traditional then dont change your name. You can choose. No one is forcing you to change your name (and if they are that is really concerning.) Rare is the guy that would change their name.

View Quoted Comment Mrs just means married or not, not whose name you took or didnt take

I agree with you completely! We told our officiant and DJ to announce us as Mr. and Mrs. Patel. His first name will not be used!

I completely agree. The woman literally loses all identity except for Mrs. Certainly says a lot about what they thought a woman's role was in the past.

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Not according to the Emily Post institute. http://emilypost.com/advice/the-mrs-question/ and http://emilypost.com/advice/guide-to-addressing-correspondence/. "Mrs." is only used when you're using your husband's last name.

Our MC is announcing us as “Mr Adam Sarnicki and Mrs Fiona Sarnicki”

He said he likes to do it this way cause it’s the first time the bride hears her first name with her new last name in such a public setting and it’s special.

I dont like it either. I told our DJ to introduce us as Mr and Mrs last name. I told him I dont want to be referred to as Mrs Jos first and last name and he perfectly fine with it.

View Quoted Comment Not necessarily. I’m taking my FH’s last name because I want to share a family name with him and with my future kids. Doesn’t mean I want to take on his entire identity.