Moving In Together Against Parents' Wishes

My FH and I moved in together with my parents at graduation of HS and have just recently (about 4 months ago) moved into our own apt with a roomate. It was so much smarter sharing a place financially and got that semi married life before the real thing! Now we're fairly married without the certificate for legal purposes etc. and love it! I also day to try things before making it official because you may find you don't love living together AT ALL and if your already married it's too late. Like how some wait for marriage to hook up and some don't. It's all up to you 2! good luck!

I had this same exact thing happen to me within the last week! My parents and FH parents are devout Christians as well and my mom was not having us moving in together 1 month before the wedding. Whether it's one month or a few years you have to make these types of decisions for yourself otherwise your parents will constantly have their hand in your life and marriage. Like the other posters said they will get over it so decide for yourself and no one else!

One concern I have heard of is that sometimes the officiant won't marry you if you live together. I know ours won't which is why we both are waiting. I'm 23 and still live with my parents for financial reasons and I'm still going to school as well. FH lives with his parents who are also very southern baptist, so I totally understand where you're coming from.

Appropriate..

Maybe talk to FH and see how he feels about it. If you both are okay with moving in together I say go for it. They will get over it.

When FW and I first moved in together her mom would come over but would not go into our bedroom. Eventually she just got used to it and now she doesn't have a problem with it at all. You know it's the right choice for you and as long as your FH agrees, you'll be just fine.

Both me and my FH are still in college. We're getting married next December. He isn't graduating until 2019 because he took a year off to co-op and I won't graduate until 2020 because I took a couple years off to figure out what I truly wanted to do. We've been engaged for a little over 2 months, but have been living together for over a year now. We save so much on rent that help us pay for school. It is so much cheaper than living even on campus. If his parents aren't paying for rent, then it's not really their decision. I say go for it. My parents are both very catholic and when I explained the financial reason behind it, they were on board. We've also learned so much about each other, and we love it! Best wishes!

My FILs were mad when I moved in with FH (before we had gotten engaged) because it would save us money and realistically we would spend time together anyway. She got over it eventually. She's the most traditional Catholic woman ever. His parents will get over it.

I'm not religious, so this may be out in left field for some people.

Would you buy a car without test driving it first?

You are about to commit to someone FOR LIFE. A test drive before taking those vows seems totally logical to me. YOU are making the commitment, not the parents. YOU have to live with it, not the parents. Things can change dramatically when you are actually in each other's space 24/7.

That's just my opinion. I could be wrong.

I got engaged at 19 and after being together 9 months / engaged for 3 we got a place together because dorming in Manhattan insanely expensive. His parents freaked out, not for religious reasons, cut his off financially, etc. My mom was all "well you might as well see if it's gunna work before you plan a wedding" I'm SO SO SOOOOOO GLAD we moved in together before getting married. Our relationship changed a bit (in a good way) and now, three apartments later, we know we can make it through. Makes me more confident in our marriage and his parents are now totally on board and want us to buy a house, haha

They'll get over it. You sound rather young. Everyone should live together before they're married.