Moving In Together Against Parents' Wishes

Just do it. They'll get over it.

Eh, I am honestly with you on this. I would explain the financial aspect behind it. FH and I bought a house a year after dating. It just made sense

Take their opinions with a grain of salt. As long as you are both comfortable and financially stable enough for this then it is 100% your decision.

If I were your mom, I would be more concerned about how old you are.

I agree with HamWhites, they'll live. You've gotta do what's best for you as a couple and what is financially best. FH and I have lived together for over 3 years now, mostly to save money! It also has given us a great idea of how our personalities mesh when sharing household responsibilities.

Karen- if she's graduating in 2018 she'll probably be around 22/23 and isn't getting married until she's about or is 24. Anyone over the age of 18 is free to move out of their parent's house.

Not sure why their age matters if they are adults....

Flying, if she is graduating in 2018, she could be 20 or 21 now. Yes, she is free to move out of house. She is also free to pay her own tuition, etc. Maybe she already is. If I were the mom, I would say she needs to pay more attention to school and less about her wedding.

Agree with everyone else. They will get over it. In addition to saving money, I also think it's smart to live together before you agree to spend the rest of your lives together.

Well Karen you don't seem to be her mom. At least she's going to school and graduating before she gets married. Her FH already has a career lined up and they are being smart by discussing finances now in order to plan and find out what works better for them.

I would maybe talk to FH and make sure he really wants to do it and can handle his family disapproving like that. That type of upbringing can run deep, but breaking away from it (and the need for parental approval) is healthy in my experience.

If you and FH are fully financially independent and self supporting, I would just do it and quit talking to them about it. It'll be a good exercise in boundaries to say "We understand your perspective and we aren't asking for your approval. This is my adult decision, it's happening, and it isn't open for discussion anymore."

And then actually refusing to engage by stopping the conversation if they bring it up.

It'll be good to do that now about moving in together before it starts happening with every detail of your wedding, marriage, possible future children's lives, etc.

My parents weren't pleased either. Fh got a job four hours away from our hometown. It was a no brainer for us to move in together, too. They will get over it! Mine already have.

Flying, yes I am not her mom, but I am trying to explain what her mom might be thinking and what consequences may be.

A. Magill, yes I agree, OP has her head on straight, but unless she is fully supportive, this could be problemantic.

Karen, if you read the post OP's parents are fine with her decisions. Her Fh's parents are the ones not okay with it because they don't approve of their son living with someone before they are married.

It's far enough off I wouldn't even bring it up around them. Obviously you two need to plan things out but it's not a conversation they need to part of unless you are asking for money.

Either way I doubt there is anything you could say to Change their mind.

God Lord @Karen she said after graduation clearly she is concerned about her education. She is an adult and is more than capable of making adult decisions.

I'd ask FH to talk to his parents. Depending on how religious they are they may cut ties with him or continuously give him grief about "living in sin" and/or not come to the wedding. Is FH ok if it gets to this level? It will likely not get to that point but I like to prepare for worse case scenario reactions.

Although this won't kill his parents, it will not sit well with them and will hurt your relationship with them. I suggest explaining to them why. They may offer to help you financially.

Ella, that's what I was coming back to say.

Going off of @Ella...

The places that do offer short term leases will cost much more. A year long lease is significantly cheaper than one that's less than a year.