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Dianna
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Moving in 5 mins away from inlaws?

Dianna, on October 22, 2016 at 10:38 PM Posted in Planning 0 64

Nervously shopping for a home, and the only one anyone seems to be content with is just a 5-8 minute *walk* from my in laws?

Just a little bit nervous about being that close to family, when we're newly engaged and soon-to-be-Married..

Any thoughts or advice to ease a nervous brides concerns?

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Latest activity by FutureMrs.M., on October 23, 2016 at 11:21 PM
  • E&M
    VIP September 2017
    E&M ·
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    Do you have a good relationship with them? My future in laws are great and I'd love living close to them, other than then I'd live in a busy city which is a no-go!

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  • OG Dianna
    Master March 2017
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    I think this depends on your relationship with your in-laws. If they respect your boundaries, then it wouldn't be such a bad thing. But if not, this could be a nightmare.

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  • JoRocka
    Master September 2016
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    So much nope. Nope. Nope.

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  • FutureRand
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    We are currently 2 houses away from FILs it's normally not a problem! We get together on Sundays for dinner. You just need to have boundaries.

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  • HurricaneK
    Devoted June 2018
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    I wouldnt. Don't get me wrong, I love my FMIL but she can be a little intrusive. If you do then if you have concerns. Don't give them a house key. ?

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  • carspfern
    Super December 2016
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    I love my inlaws, and we all get along great, so I'd be totally fine with it. That being said, that's not usually the case, and unless you have a reeeeaaallly good relationship with your FILs, I would definitely advise against it

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  • Samtoine2017
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    We're currently 5 min away from FHs parents, and it's fine...but they're really great. We have dinner with them once a week.

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  • TreeShade
    Master September 2016
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    For me that would be a Hell to the naw naw naw

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  • Mrs. Houston
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    Me and my FH literally lived just 2 houses down from his grandmother and aunt, 4 houses down from his other aunt and right next door to his brother.. although I was used to living that close with family on my side growing up, it was a nightmare being that close to his family. I didn't have the best relationship with his mom at the time but was fine with the other family and they would knock on my door non-stop. I agree with @FutureRand, boundaries will definitely need to be set or understood. Now that we live on the opposite side of town from everyone, my relationship with FH's family is better than it has ever been...the space and new boundaries are appreciated for sure!!

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  • FutureMrsAmador
    Devoted May 2017
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    I wouldn't.

    We live upstairs from my in-laws and it's a nightmare. Constantly inviting themselves upstairs, no boundaries. I love them but it's irritating not being able to have personal space at times

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    I live 5 mins away from my parents and 10 mins away from my FMIL. It really depends how close you are. My mom is my BFF!!

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  • Mrs.Whooooo
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    FH and I currently live less than 3 miles from my family. He loves that I get to spend as much time as I want with them and he and my dad hang out a lot. They have a good relationship though so that helps.

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  • Seale
    Master November 2017
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    Hell no. My mom would constantly be calling/texting me due to something going on at the house and FH's family would constantly be knocking on the door and asking FH to come do whatever task that they just can't do by themselves. Seriously, as much as I get along with them, I wonder how they survive without FH living with them.

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  • Kristin
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    We lived walking distance from his parents for 3 years. never was a problem Smiley smile But we have a good relationship with them.

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  • Melody
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    Nope. Ever see the show everybody loves Raymond?

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  • Swin.
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    Nope. One of my really close friends lives across the street from her in laws. They have a great relationship but she said it's really hard to not feel like they are intruding. Anytime anyone goes to visit the parents, they stop by her house. Anytime they don't have a lemon, they come on over. Stuff like that would be annoying. They do Sunday dinner and she said that even then it's hard because they have to basically spend their entire Sunday there and that's not ideal either.

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  • Heather Renee
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    I'd keep looking. Even if you have a good relationship with them, it can be hard to keep boundaries or privacy when you're that close in distance. It would definitely be a no for me. I have a decent relationship with FILs and so does FH with mine, but we like having our space too.

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  • Mrs. B
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    We used to live about 5 miles from my fiancés parents, and I actually loved being so close! They weren't intrusive at all though, and we have a very good relationship. Now we have moved almost 4 hours away and I miss having them close lol

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  • ChocolatierKT
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    We are 2 streets away from my parents but only 2 houses in between. You just have to have boundaries like knocking

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  • Mrs. Sitz
    Master July 2016
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    Oh, it's a no from me

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