Monetary Gifts

Yikes "all we need is money (wedding & for a honeymoon)." That sounds so gross!

Jessica, it's not taboo here. Those are taboo everywhere.

Mariah, that is exactly how people responded until you called us rude and negative. Even after that statement, that is still how most people responded. They stated that it is rude to ask for money, guests may be offended, and offered possible solutions.

@lollipop agreed!

Ok everyone thanks for the feedback I will not be asking for money from my guests. I was unaware that it was a sensitive topic & that it was looked down upon to do so. Appreciate the quick responses.

When I first joined WW, I lurked for a while. I think I went about 15 pages back in the forums to get a sense of the community, typical questions, etc. All of these questions were answered just by browsing for an hour or 2.

I'm not really gonna be helpful here butttttt....

I feel like I always need/want things lol

New luggage ?

Down comforter

Nice plush towel sets

Scale for the bathroom

Duvet cover(s)

Fancy China to never use

Expensive knife set

Dutch oven

Kitchen towels

Comfy pillows

K bye lol good luck

There is no polite way. Either make a small registry or don't make one at all and your guests should take the hint

I actually had the same question I think its a good one! I thinks it's actually rude to make a list of things fir people to buy you when you already have what you need. Im in same boat as yo u!

You have the wedding you can afford now. You plan the honeymoon you can afford now, or postpone it. You don't register, or make a small registry (I don't understand not needing *anything* for your home. DH and I owned our own home 2 years before we got married and there is always something I can use for décor, etc. even if you have the basics). There is NO way to politely ask for money - you are not a charity!

OP, you were unaware that it's looked down upon to ask people to give you money? WOW.

@AlwaysMs, I'm a Georgia girl! If you don't register, people talk shit about you. If you don't register for fine china or crystal, people have no idea what to get you. If you have the audacity to ask for money, you're done. I literally got fine china and crystal almost exclusively at my shower. I kind of needed the other stuff a little more! But my cousin and my best friend didn't register for fine china and people were gossiping about them and saying that they wouldn't be good hostesses in the future because they wouldn't have the proper utensils. It's intense!

@Cameron, if you don't have a registry, you're not getting a gift from me. I'm not taking the risk of you hating it and returning it because if I come visit and I don't see the gift and/or find out that you returned it, I'm going to be fucking pissed and it's going to do damage to the friendship.

My mom is the same way, Crescent! She is a Kentucky girl. Interesting.

Every time this is asked, the answer is the same; make a small registry and people will get the hint that you could use cash; like who couldn't?

I'm outside of NYC. I rarely see more than one or two boxed gifts at a wedding. It's all cards

Flagging for name calling, you need to read the rules Maria .

Also, it doesn't matter if you're close or not. Asking for money in any type of way is rude!

How is this constantly a question?!

There are sites for setting up a honeymoon fund that people can donate to. Maybe look into that and put a link on your wedding website, and put something like in lieu of gifts all we ask is your presence and if you feel so inclined feel free to donate to our dream honeymoon fund to go to *insert where ever you are wanting to go* or one of our favorite charities (and link some causes you care about). I agree with a lot of people and say make a really small registry of maybe new towels, coffee maker, luggage the sort of stuff you'll likely need to upgrade at some point or if your toaster or coffee maker break you have can extra one in a closet. I've known people who just didn't make registries at all and ended up getting lot's of weird gifts or like 6 toasters because some people just insist on bringing gifts no matter what so it's better to make requests than just end up with whatever.

Don't ask for money. Just don't do a registry. People will give you money. You don't need to ask for it. If you are having a bridal shower specify no gifts on the invites.

People give money anyways, so there's no point in telling them to do so. Nobody likes panhandlers

Kate, that's the same as asking for money and equally rude.

Cute poems don't make it an less rude either.