Monetary Gifts

There is no polite way because you do not do it.

Mariah- I suggest that you lurk on the forums some. We get this question a lot and the answer is always the same. It's rude to ask for money in any form. Make a small registry, either upgrading items or put things you'd love to have but wouldn't buy for yourself. Many people give money in cards and you can't tell your guests how to give gifts.

It's rude and tacky. Do not ask for money in any way!

Make a small registry or Don't register at all. Your guests will know what to do.

There is no polite way to ask for money. Create a small registry with items you still need and can upgrade and people will get the hint. Also do not have a bridal shower.

Omg. Again.

You don't. Create a small registry or don't have a registry and people will get the damn idea.

FFS. Asking for money in any way is tacky and rude.

Also no registry, no shower. Keep that in mind.

Stop it

Oh my gosh?? It was a simple question... I thought this was a welcomed site for any bride-to-be and feel comfortable asking anything on our mind. No need for the negativity towards me or the question?

Mariah we get this question multiple times PER day. We're tired of answering it when you can do a quick search here. Or read the new user sticky. This is why we really recommend you lurk for a while before commenting or posting.

No one was negative towards you. We told you the truth. There's a huge difference being negative and being blunt. If you had lurked for all of two minutes, you would've saw that this question is answered on a DAILY basis.

Ooo Richard FTW.

If you're asking for money for the wedding, you shouldn't be having this wedding.

And guests shouldn't be asked to pay for your sex vacation either.

Lurk before you post AND read the New User Sticky and you would KNOW not to ask this. You. Do. Not. Ask. For. Money. Period.

No registry or a small one will get the point of across.

Out of curiosity, what would have been a "positive" way to answer your question??

Mariah honestly don't listen to them! you should be close and comfortable enough with all the people you invite to your wedding to you should be able to ask for money!!

Holly, you're delusional if you think asking people for money is ok.

^^ comfortable or not, it's rude. You don't ask for money. People should not feel pressured into giving cash.

You have a wedding and honeymoon that you can afford.

You register for upgraded home items or hobbies (i.e. camping, boardgames, cookbooks).

You let adults be adults and let them give you money if they desire.

You forgot to indicate your post is sarcasm, Holly. OP: asking for money is never ok. Ever. Either have no registry or a registry with some things that always need replacing (sheets, towels, etc.) and I guarantee you that, like almost every other wedding, you will get 80-95% cash gifts. And that's without being rude and asking for cash. It's not necessary and it will give people a very negative impression of you and your partner, which will last after the wedding.

No one was negative towards me? More than half of the comments are? -no people are not being "blunt" everyone is attacking instead of giving the advice! I'm new to the site & I have been looking through but still trying to figure it out therefore had not come across this question before.. I understand NOW that you see this question asked more than enough but before jumping down someone's throat saying I can't afford my wedding and people shouldn't pay for my "sex vacation" for asking it just simply say it is not recommended to do so. This should be a welcoming, HELPFUL way for a bride to plan her wedding.

Anyone want to bet that OP only responds to the 1 comment that tells her to do it, and ignores all the others telling her not to?

OP, don't do it. It's rude.

ETA: How is giving you advice that will help you not offend or anger your guests not helpful? Sometimes the best way to be helpful is to tell someone their bad idea is bad, and suggest an alternative (like people have done here with the small registry suggestion).