Moh in a destination wedding

Was the June wedding a destination wedding? If so, can you put aside the money you were going to spend on the June wedding so you can go in the winter? If not, be honest and let her know soon.

I absolutely would not wait to tell her. i wouldn't want her assuming that you could make it. so i would let her know.

Are you really so sure that you won't be able to swing it at that time? You said winter, but not what month exactly. But if you are currently MOH for her originally scheduled June wedding, you must have spent some money already by now, at least for attire, if nothing else. That's money you won't have to spend in the winter. I'm just wondering if it could all work out so everyone wins.

Maybe if you discuss your concerns with her now, she'll help you come up with a solution, so that your dream wedding isn't harmed in any way, but you can still share her special day as her MOH.

I'm one of those people that believes there's always a solution. Give it a shot, before you throw in the towel. But talking with her sooner, rather than later, is best.

I agree. Please tell her right away. I would be so hurt and so upset if I found out my friend knew she couldn't come and kept it from me.

I agree with telling her now. I would always much rather someone to be upfront and honest in the beginning. I'm not sure how close you are with the bride, but I know that my MOH is an absolute must beside me on my big day. She's been my best friend for 16 years, and I've always said that I'd cut other things out of the budget to get her to my wedding. Luckily she lives a lot closer now (before she was in LA and I live in North Carolina, now she's just over in Kentucky) and she'll be able to get down here on her own.