Micro weddings??

My FH and I went back and forth with this for awhile, and eventually ended up deciding ceremony and reception, but now I regret it. We have spent so much money, and I feel like it lost the intimacy that we were wanting with our guests. I would love to be able to get all my deposits back and start over. My advice is to decide what you ACTUALLY want on your wedding day. Do you want something intimate that reflects the two of you, or do you want to host a party that is more geared to your guests having fun?

I had a microwedding before they were called microweddings. Less than 20 guests. It allowed us to have a much nicer wedding than we would have otherwise due to budget. Spending $30k on a wedding simply was not an option for two college kids who weren't even old enough to drink yet. I don't regret it at all. Nearly twenty years later, I still remember every single person who attended - something none of my friends with 50+ guest wedding can say, even five years later.

Personally, I like microweddings. I think the big blown out weddings with tons of people are exhausting, and I can't imagine why anyone wants to deal with that many guests on their wedding day.

First off, congratulations to you and your husband!

My fiance talked over this about having our little ceremony with our close family and then a year later celebrate with all our friends and family at a venue. How did you and your husband send out invitations to your guest and how did you name the event? Are you planning on getting ready the same way for your reception e.g. hair, makeup, and dress? I have so many questions I can't even think of everything haha!

Thank you everyone for your input!!

My fiance is a freelance photographer and oftentimes he does wedding events and tags me along as his assistant. I have to admit, when I am at these weddings I can't help but think about myself in their situation and being surrounded by friends and family on our special day. Just when I was convinced I wanted a small wedding!! This is definitely a hard decision...

Thank you! We sent out invitations that said something along the line of "Join us in our celebration of marriage" for the upcoming event. I never wore my big dress (I wore a simple white dress to the minimony) but I will be wearing my original dress at the upcoming one. I still will be getting my hair & makeup done as well, as this is where we will be utilizing our bridal party and taking bridal portraits. It's literally like having 2 separate weddings, except we recently decided against another ceremony. First we were going to do another one, but changed our minds.

After attending big weddings back in 2019, it made me want a small wedding for when the time comes. The reason being is because the reception time seems more about the guests than it does the bride and groom and I love the intimacy of a microwedding. Therefore, my FH and I are doing a small wedding of 50 people or less. We may actually be cutting it down to 40 people now. We also bought a house back in November and we definitely want to put money towards it for renovations. But definitely lay out your pros and cons! It truly comes down to what you WANT on your special day Good luck!