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Micro weddings??

Caren, on August 7, 2021 at 5:41 PM Posted in Planning 1 9

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Hi everyone!
So my fiancé and I got engaged end of June. He came up with the idea of having a micro wedding - going up to the poconos and getting married with 20 people. We would then celebrate a year later with family and friends. I think it’s a beautiful idea. The location (Promise Ridge) is absolutely stunning. With our state going back and forth with this pandemic we wouldn’t know what a year or two would be like for us. With weddings at almost more than 30k it would also help us financially as well.
With that being said, a part of me also wants to have the wedding at a nice venue with ceremony + reception in front of our family and friends. I’m kind of torn and need some advice!!

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Jai · on August 7, 2021 at 6:00 PM
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The poconos is beautiful!! We got engaged there and visited Bushkill falls. Due to covid, our 92 person went to a 7 person wedding. For us there were no regrets because we used the money from the wedding we would have had, for a down payment on a house. Really sit down and weigh pros vs cons. I know we do wish we originally went with a smaller wedding because to us having the down payment for our home is more important. I'm sure whatever you decide will be beautiful!
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Sarahk · on August 7, 2021 at 7:43 PM
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That sounds beautiful. I was always in favor of eloping or having a very small wedding sans Covid. We ended up comprising with a small wedding guest of 80 because my fiancé is an only child. The wedding is mainly for his parents. At the end of the day, as long as you have each other thats what matters. Cheers!
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Yasmine · on August 7, 2021 at 8:19 PM
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My husband and I did that. We had a minimony last October with a 35 guest count and it was amazing. That originally wasn't our plan but due to Covid we had no choice because we wanted to keep our original marriage date. We now have our reception coming up this October with a much bigger guest count.
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Melissa · on August 8, 2021 at 1:47 PM
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My FH and I went back and forth with this for awhile, and eventually ended up deciding ceremony and reception, but now I regret it. We have spent so much money, and I feel like it lost the intimacy that we were wanting with our guests. I would love to be able to get all my deposits back and start over. My advice is to decide what you ACTUALLY want on your wedding day. Do you want something intimate that reflects the two of you, or do you want to host a party that is more geared to your guests having fun?
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Eniale · on August 9, 2021 at 8:33 AM
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I had a microwedding before they were called microweddings. Less than 20 guests. It allowed us to have a much nicer wedding than we would have otherwise due to budget. Spending $30k on a wedding simply was not an option for two college kids who weren't even old enough to drink yet. I don't regret it at all. Nearly twenty years later, I still remember every single person who attended - something none of my friends with 50+ guest wedding can say, even five years later.
Personally, I like microweddings. I think the big blown out weddings with tons of people are exhausting, and I can't imagine why anyone wants to deal with that many guests on their wedding day.
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Caren · on August 9, 2021 at 2:22 PM
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First off, congratulations to you and your husband!
My fiance talked over this about having our little ceremony with our close family and then a year later celebrate with all our friends and family at a venue. How did you and your husband send out invitations to your guest and how did you name the event? Are you planning on getting ready the same way for your reception e.g. hair, makeup, and dress? I have so many questions I can't even think of everything haha!
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Caren · on August 9, 2021 at 2:25 PM
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Thank you everyone for your input!!
My fiance is a freelance photographer and oftentimes he does wedding events and tags me along as his assistant. I have to admit, when I am at these weddings I can't help but think about myself in their situation and being surrounded by friends and family on our special day. Just when I was convinced I wanted a small wedding!! This is definitely a hard decision...
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Yasmine · on August 9, 2021 at 3:07 PM
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Thank you! We sent out invitations that said something along the line of "Join us in our celebration of marriage" for the upcoming event. I never wore my big dress (I wore a simple white dress to the minimony) but I will be wearing my original dress at the upcoming one. I still will be getting my hair & makeup done as well, as this is where we will be utilizing our bridal party and taking bridal portraits. It's literally like having 2 separate weddings, except we recently decided against another ceremony. First we were going to do another one, but changed our minds.
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Heather · on August 10, 2021 at 1:23 PM
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After attending big weddings back in 2019, it made me want a small wedding for when the time comes. The reason being is because the reception time seems more about the guests than it does the bride and groom and I love the intimacy of a microwedding. Therefore, my FH and I are doing a small wedding of 50 people or less. We may actually be cutting it down to 40 people now. We also bought a house back in November and we definitely want to put money towards it for renovations. But definitely lay out your pros and cons! It truly comes down to what you WANT on your special day Good luck!
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