Meeting The Future In-Laws: How Long Did You Date Before First Meeting Your Partner's Family?

View Quoted Comment That's cool that you met pretty much his whole family fairly early on in the relationship! I don't blame you at all for keeping your distance from your FMIL, it's great that she's lightened up a bit, but it'd be hard to forget the past. Awesome that you have a good relationship with everyone else in the family!

View Quoted Comment Ah, that makes sense. Meeting the parents when you're just friends is a lot less nerve-wracking than meeting parents when you are officially dating! Cool that he was able to meet them way early on!

My fiance and I have been friends since HS. So my parents had met him a few times because he would come over to pick me up to go hang out. However, I never really knew his parents before dating but there's a funny story...

So my boyfriends parents are immigrants and came to the US in their early adulthood. His mom is from El Salvador and his dad is from Colombia. His dad traveled a lot throughout the US and picked up different accents and his accent is VERY thick and for some reason mostly sounds Russian. And he is a loud talker. So back when we were in HS me and boyfriend (just friend at the time) went to Knott's Scary Farm and I guess he forgot his phone at home or it was broken (this was back in 2006 and we are 16/17 years old at the time) and he left my number for his parents for just in case. Any way... I didn't know he gave his parents my number and I got a phone call. Not knowing the number, I ignored it. Then the number called again and again. I finally answered and this grown ass man with this heavy Russian accent is talking loudly to me over the phone. I say you have the wrong number and hang up. He calls AGAIN and I answer and go off and cuss him out. Boyfriend asked who I was talking to. And I tell him some guy keeps calling me and won't leave me alone! He asks to see the number and tells me...."that's my dad". My heart sank and he explained to me how he gave his parents my number. So I give him my phone so he can call him back. I am mortified.

So after that night I never saw or met his parents. And they actually moved out of state for a couple of years. When they moved back that is when we admitted our feelings to each other and began dating. When I was about to meet his dad I was so nervous. But it ended up being fine. They always referred to me as the "girl who cussed out dad". I apologized and said how embarrassed I was but he was a good sport and we all had a good laugh about it and still laugh about it. lol Anyway...that was my first impression with his dad. Good times.

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Oh, I'm sure I would have met them very shortly thereafter...DH did live with them (NYC rents are no fun).

But, I was expecting a date with DH, and... I just would have done some things differently that day, lol. I'm not one to care about how much skin is exposed, as a general rule of thumb, but I probably would have exposed just a wee bit less if I had known I was meeting my FILs!

I mean, I introduced DH to my dad and my maternal grandfather within a month, because I wanted vetting.

I met mine a month into us dating. Our relationship since has been up and down (with his mother, his father is an amazing man)

Well all my life lol. His parents are family friends with my mom. We grew up together. My mom used to babysit him and his brother ( who is also my EX) long story there.

View Quoted Comment That's so awesome that you are all so close! Meeting them before you started dating your fiance also helps to take some of the pressure off.

View Quoted Comment I think that timing makes sense! Totally understand wanting to meet them before spending a major holiday at their house. Awesome that you have a good relationship with them!

View Quoted Comment 4 months isn't bad timing at all! That seems pretty reasonable. I'm so sorry to hear about your father-in-law and your dad! Sounds like you have some good memories of the time you got to spend with them.

View Quoted Comment That's awesome that you improved your Spanish so you could talk with them more! And that they are so understanding of any words or phrases that you might accidentally say incorrectly. They sound like great family members to have, especially for making you feel immediately welcome in their home!

View Quoted Comment 2 months seems like a pretty good timeline!

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I was soooo nervous when I met them all lol. I'm not really a baby person and thankfully he didn't even feel comfortable holding his nephew at the time so it took some of the pressure off of me when I declined to hold him.

My FMIL is at least trying now. Over the weekend I had to miss a kind of important thing for my fiancé and was completely beating myself up over it. I texted her asking her to keep me updated and she responded saying she'll take care of him for me. That's a super big step for her, since so much of it was because she felt I was taking him away.

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Thank you Lisa ! Yes, fortunatelly we could spend a lot of quality time all together before our dads were taken away... The two of them were happy for us and proud, so that's important...

View Quoted Comment Oh wow, very cool! Did he meet your family around the same time that you met his family?

View Quoted Comment Awesome that his family is so welcoming of you! Totally understand being nervous to meet them, I was also nervous to meet my fiance's family. Glad everything turned out well!

View Quoted Comment 2 months seems ideal! Did you all meet up at one big event (where your families could meet each other too)? Or did you meet each other's families on separate occasions?

View Quoted Comment Oh wow, very cool! It's crazy how you just know when it's right. Did you feel ready to meet them so soon? Did you also introduce him to your family around the same time?

View Quoted Comment No I don't talk to my mother and my father lives in Puerto Rico.

I met my mother in law before we went on our first overnight trip together. This was three months after we started dating, and then when we came back from our trip I met my father in law and a couple other family members. Our relationship now compared to then seems fine, a little less exciting as before but fine nonetheless.

View Quoted Comment Totally makes sense why it took some time for you to meet each other's families! The holidays are usually a good time for that in any case. Awesome that you are all on good terms!