Meet and Greet/Engagement party

You need to fire that planner.

Horrible idea from what sounds like a bad planner.

Why would u say that?? She did say she will send me samples! We just need to have all the inviting in the THANK YOU note!

Yeah this sounds like a terrible idea.

What the fuck.

You should fire that planner. They sound awful.

What even is a meet and greet party? Why do you need to be thanking people? If this is for your BP, you shouldn't be asking them till 6-9 months before.

You don't throw your own engagement party.

You don't ask the BP a year and a half before the wedding.

You don't give the BP a list of expectations.

That's why people are saying you need a new planner.

I've never heard of this. You want to go over what type of expectations exactly?

Is it an engagement party (for you and FS) or a thank you party (for guests or wedding party) ?

They are not the same thing...

Huh?

I've actually read this four times and don't know exactly what is happening.

A meet and greet is for the wedding party to know each other!! My family (bridesmaids)coming from afar don't know his people(groomsmen). I'm not throwing the engagement party! But we are setting up the meet and greet. Just happens to be on the same day because we have out of towners. And it won't be till exactly a year from my wedding. Not soon! And the thank you is for to thank my bridesmaid for accepting to be my bridesmaid along with the expectations and if they can't handle that they would have that opportunity to step out.

Fascinating....

What exactly are these expectations? If they're anything more than show up on time, relatively sober, in the agreed-upon attire, adjust them.

No to all of this. The only thing that should be "expected" of your bridal party is that they show up with the agreed upon dress everything else is optional. Also, you shouldn't ask anyone to be a part of the bridal party until 6-8 months before the wedding.

Meet and greet is extremely not necessary. It's a wedding. They can meet there. Why would they need to meet before?

Your one and only expectation of anyone, ESPECIALLY your bridal party is to show up on time to your wedding day in the dress that is agreed upon. Everything else, including this party, is optional. They have no duties other than showing up to your wedding on time and in the agreed upon attire. That's it.

Seriously, lurk around the forums some. You have to have come across other BP/BM posts where this point was made previous to posting this.

You have to set up a meet and greet? Aren't they adults? Can't they handle introducing themselves to people?

Usually you thank your bp when the wedding has come.

Can you explain these expectations

Projection date when we will meet together for any events-trying out the bridesmaid dressing, rehearsals, etc... and expectations/responsibilities along with prices like they responsible for their own dress and shoes and put the prices with it, their overall responsibility as a BRIDESMAID. My MOH will discuss the bachelorette party and her expectation of how much she collecting, etc

They have only one responsibility. Show up in the agreed upon dress.

Everything else is OPTIONAL