Marriage

@Yardiegirl

I never said I didn't like her question. I just think it was silly. She is getting upset because people are making comments to her, but what did she think was going to happen. Silly questions get silly responses. Can't take the heat, stay out of the kitchen. "It's a little childish to start bashing someone because they asked a question".....I am not bashing, simply stating my opinion. Is this not allowed?

Drunk or not Shannon said it best when she said: "Why comment?" Because it's a public forum".

You state you started this discussion to see what others opinions were and to see what others think.....here are others opinions, take it or leave it! According to you, this is what you asked for, other's opinions, so take it all in!

This isn't a matter of not understanding a question, its a matter of stating my opinion.

Oh I am the bad one because I state my opinion. Like I am the only one who didn't take this question seriously. Quit getting bent all out of shape. Cry me a river, build a bridge and get over it.

And now we're arguing whether or not it's okay to be offended, or be offended by someone who is offended, or offended by someone who is offended by someone else being offended.

Sometimes I think people take things WAY too seriously. I'll just crawl back into my gold-plated isolation tank and have sexy encounters with the dolphins in my mind, thanks.

Marriage is the one where the guy didn't run away from your dungeon.

Was it a sex dungeon?

I'm not a woman on this forum

I think what Undraya was stating is "What does marriage mean to you". Everyone has different ways of expressing their feelings....We are all women here in this forum and I know that we all know how to act like women. Opinions are opinions...you may like them you may not but I am pretty sure we can keep it civil.

I think Glenn is trying to say he's a dude. But he could also be a wood sprite. Or maybe the Count of Monte Cristo.

@ Glenn then what are you then? If you are a dude then correction...majority of us are women here and we have some dudes in this forum...I know that we can be civil to one another....

I'm a dude.

Nobody wasn't civil until everyone freaked out because a majority of us interpreted a question a particular way and the OP freaked out about that. If you want your questions answered accurately then maybe you should make sure they are interpreted accurately by making them clear.

@slthompson - that's all I'm saying...

@shannon...I think people take things seriously because they don't always know where a person that they never met before is coming from or even if it's sarcastic or not....I'm a very sarcastic person and I tell blunt truths as well. However, I tend to tune it down when people don't know me. ...but that's me

I guess to me this forum didn't call for all of that but hey, it's just my opinion

Maybe we all need to sing a happy song now..

You guys crack me up! Loved Shannon's story of what marriage is! Even FH is laughing.

I actually read the title and didn't post because I thought it was a rhetorical question. I assumed that people planning a wedding had a handle on what they want a marriage to look like/be. However, some of these repsonses weren't needed, although given.

So to answer the OP's initial question... marriage is what I have now, without the wedding and legal documentation. I have a six year relationship that has been nothing short of compromise and acceptance. Patience and encouragement. I intend this to continue the day of and after my wedding day. This isn't something that I'm jumpstarting by jumping a broom (and for the record, I will not be participating in that tradition!)

@ Jasmine.....love it....very well said!!!!!!

It's a whole new different ball game, i mean it's great to be with someone you love all the time and though i've only been married for about 60 days, everytime i look at my husband i swear the love i have for him grows, but there are still times i want to hurt him for something he does or doesn't understand,but that's marriage. lots of love and understanding and compromise and i wouldn't change it for the world

Wow out all that only a couple responds was well said.lots of love and understanding and compromise and all the other stuff that goes with it..

Thank u yardiegirl! Don't try to make is seem like I'm the one asking crazy stuff cause u don't understand the comment! Cause its not that deep! Obviously. Mrs D got a issue within her self, just because I'm new don't mean I'm gonna let people say just anything. Just because this is a public thing geez some stuff if better left unsaid..get over it

Thank u ms thompson cause some people don't know how to think for themselves..lol..but o well it is what it is..