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Andy
Beginner August 2020

March 21st, 2020 Covid-19

Andy, on March 15, 2020 at 7:12 AM

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Hi everyone I am getting married in 6 days in San Diego. Right now, I am good to go all of my vendors are still on board. We have only lost maybe 15 people (145 total currently) after sending out a email telling them we totally understand if they were not comfortable or able to attend. However, I am...

Hi everyone I am getting married in 6 days in San Diego. Right now, I am good to go all of my vendors are still on board. We have only lost maybe 15 people (145 total currently) after sending out a email telling them we totally understand if they were not comfortable or able to attend. However, I am absolutley besides myself with guilt. I feel that if I do not postpone I am being selfish and contributing to the possible spread of this disease. I do not have a high number of elderly attending, but my grandmother is deadset on attending and is not concerned about the risk.


Are there any other brides out there suffering like me? Feeling like having your wedding is irresponsible? I would love to hear from anyone getting married this coming saturday as well.


Thank you so sorry to all of you beautiful brides struggling through this, with this extra added layer.

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  • Ellen
    Dedicated August 2020
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    No, all stop. Why is it ok to ignore CDC guidance? Literally states are on lockdown, your party can wait.
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  • Rachel
    Beginner May 2020
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    Thank you Ellen. I really appreciate you!! 100000% agree.
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  • Ellen
    Dedicated August 2020
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    Please re-evaluate your plan. Your best friend will understand. It is NOT “madd” hysteria, it is a serious public health crisis and being dismissive when you are an at risk population is just plain stupid. Block me, I don’t care.
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  • Ellen
    Dedicated August 2020
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    Thank you for postponing, you made the right decision. It is hard, we just went through it, but wouldn’t you rather celebrate your day with the worry and stress of someone getting sick? Best luck.
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  • Danielle
    Devoted October 2020
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    Okay first of all, almost all the country is being made to cancel everything so she was made to postpone her wedding until around May or June. Second regardless of what you are saying or saying you see... you are not a know it all. Just because you’re in health care doesn’t mean others don’t see what’s happening. I have IGA disorder, I have low antibodie titters, gastroparesis and a few other things. If you’re in the health care field then you know those things are serious and dangerous and life threatening but I as a person have the choice when given to make whatever choice I feel I want to make and I’m still alive and here through all choices I’ve made. It is NOT for anyone but the CDC or WHO to be TELLING people exactly what to do. This is what I mean by mass hysteria. The CDC clearly states that about 80% of cases will self resolve and some with no symptoms at all. So the amount of people who aren’t seeing that unless your old or sick, the chances are high of survival if you’re healthy and just stay home and rest. If people knew that clearly then they wouldn’t run around calling emergency services because they have no TP or drinking bleach to avoid the virus. Mandatory closing isn’t irrational at this point but yes I’m 💯 right when I say that people are causing mass hysteria. Like why on earth would someone be motivated to block emergency service lines over TP or to drink bleach that will kill them to avoid death!? To everyone else I hope everything works out for the best!
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  • Ellen
    Dedicated August 2020
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    This literally makes zero sense. The CDC is telling people what to do, avoid gatherings of > 50 people.


    I have no clue what you are even responding to, I said listen to the CDC, that’s it.
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  • Danielle
    Devoted October 2020
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    When I originally commented, there was no clear cut rules in place yet. Simple recommendations that were coming from the news, social media and every other source possible. Which at that time, yes it caused mass hysteria. The information now as of current is from the CDC. A week ago joe Harry and bill all had different stories from different sources which causes panic. Now that it is mandated, no ones having a wedding at a venue but before yesterday it was really unclear what was recommended and what was mandatory.
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  • Evelyn
    Dedicated October 2020
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    Hi Andy
    Congratulations to you both!

    My wedding is October 2020! I was scheduled for my brides dress this weekend and is cancelled.
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  • Renee
    Expert June 2020
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    Don’t cancel May23rd. I didn’t some serious counting and calculations today. When we first heard about virus in China 10 weeks ago and serious it is. I know he virus has been around longer but this when they did a massive shut down. As of today, shops are open and people are heading back to work and finding a new normal. People are recovering and life is happening. In 10 weeks it will be May 20ish. Girl don’t cancel not unless you absolutely have to. Hold on my love!!. I’m June 7th and Jesus himself is going to have to come down and cancel my wedding. Im getting my source from Jamaica National News and BBC world news, not this brain washed media crap in the US.
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  • Renee
    Expert June 2020
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    Oh and I didn’t reply to tell you what to do, I was implying that there is hope and light at the end of this very dark tunnel. I’ll send you the news article I read yesterday about China recovering. And sorry for the misspelling and weird grammar in my earlier post. My phone likes to tell me what I want to type. Praying all is well soon!
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  • A
    Beginner March 2020
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    My wedding was this Saturday and we decided to postpone on Tuesday. We were really pushing through and wanting to have the wedding and ultimately decided to postpone. We were heartbroken and devastated and I still cry. But I do feel a relief to not worry anymore and also after letting guests know our decision, you can feel a sense of relief from them that they don't have to go or choosing what to do between staying home or going to the wedding because they love us. So we absolutely felt we made the right decision.

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  • K
    Beginner May 2021
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    Yea, I’m sorry all. I really am. This sucks...a lot. My fiancé and I were planning to get married on May 23, and we are most likely going to postpone. Our logic is, if whole businesses, like Disneyland, all bars, restaurants, are being asked (well, now told) to shut down for the sake of public safety, we have no right to expect ppl to take that risk for our nuptials. Yes, times will get better....eventually. Until then, given the clear guidelines we have, we are doing what is right for us, and hopefully for all.
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  • Ellen
    Dedicated August 2020
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    ❤️❤️❤️ Thank you for this.
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  • Andrea
    Super May 2020
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    I think it’s been a super tough decision and situation for all March/April/May brides.
    IL is going into a lockdown tomorrow until April 7th. Michigan hasn’t even closed bars or restaurants? I would be surprised if everything in Michigan is still open next week
    And I’m sorry, but I’m my opinion it is selfish to host a 100+ person party when it has been recommended (and ordered in some states) that people stay home. This situation sucks, no doubt, but you are putting people at risk. You are asking people to ignore the govt, cdc and woh recommendations to come to your wedding. It’s your choice, and it’s all your guests choice as well whether to come or not. But i think it’s the wrong choice to try and have a wedding in March.
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  • Andrea
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    I’m sorry i thought you said Michigan. My point still stands though. Isn’t CA on lockdown?
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  • K
    Beginner May 2021
    Kalenga ·
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    Just saw this today. I mean..:is it really worth it?
    We want our weddings to be memorable, but not for this reason.

    https://apple.news/AsFQui9JIRG-UPk1gAqPYwA
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  • Sandy
    Dedicated May 2021
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    The Chinese government detected the outbreak in Dec 2019. By Lunar New Year (late January 2020), they implemented the Wuhan region lock down. Workers were all stuck in their home villages and no one was allowed to travel back to the city to work. The US had its first case identified Jan 19, but didn't implement any containment protocols until early March. South Korea found out about Coronavirus at around the same time as the US, but they started testing people almost right away (reports say they had the ability up to 10000 people a day). Even with that, their cases multiplied 180-fold in a two-week span. The US barely started ramping up their testing. In Oregon, we can do MAX of 80 people with a 24 hours turnaround time - everyone else needs to wait 3-4 days before they get results back. How do I know? I work in the hospital and we are treating everyone with lung issues as potential COVID patients. We're cancelling all elective procedures to ensure that we have enough ICU beds for the anticipated # of patients we think we'll have. We've barely touched the tip of the iceberg here in the US. To think otherwise is foolish. Also take everything you hear from the Chinese with a grain of salt. Their media is all controlled by the state, so even if they're telling us that they haven't had any new cases since last week, they could be hiding it.

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  • Paulette
    Devoted April 2020
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    Emily,

    Why are you canceling your wedding instead of postponing it? My understanding is that those who have weddings planned should offer another date because of this epidemic. I am holding out as well. The media continues to say that it is going to go past May. I have reached out to our venue and as of the 1st, we will know if they will reschedule us. Yes, it may be a sign but the sign is that you have more time to get it together. It will be alright.

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  • Evelyn
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    Hi all March April May brides


    Is unknown your stress Of either going with your wedding or not. I suggest postpone to save lives in a wedding gathering you don’t practice social distances and the virus acts in groups.
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  • Calli
    Beginner August 2021
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    My heart goes out to all the brides who have to deal with this covid19 interfering with their big daySmiley sad

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