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Andy
Beginner August 2020

March 21st, 2020 Covid-19

Andy, on March 15, 2020 at 7:12 AM

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Hi everyone I am getting married in 6 days in San Diego. Right now, I am good to go all of my vendors are still on board. We have only lost maybe 15 people (145 total currently) after sending out a email telling them we totally understand if they were not comfortable or able to attend. However, I am...

Hi everyone I am getting married in 6 days in San Diego. Right now, I am good to go all of my vendors are still on board. We have only lost maybe 15 people (145 total currently) after sending out a email telling them we totally understand if they were not comfortable or able to attend. However, I am absolutley besides myself with guilt. I feel that if I do not postpone I am being selfish and contributing to the possible spread of this disease. I do not have a high number of elderly attending, but my grandmother is deadset on attending and is not concerned about the risk.


Are there any other brides out there suffering like me? Feeling like having your wedding is irresponsible? I would love to hear from anyone getting married this coming saturday as well.


Thank you so sorry to all of you beautiful brides struggling through this, with this extra added layer.

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  • Rachel
    Beginner May 2020
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    Yes - I’m feeling just like you - it’s totally irresponsible to host an event like a wedding right now. We’d be contributing to the spread of this and potentially to even worse things happening to our loved ones. I’ve finally come to
    terms with the fact that I’m going to have to cancel my May 23rd wedding. At this point it’s a no-brainer. Likely we are all going to be in a situation like Italy is in now in a few days - a week. I feel like this video honestly says it all...so scary. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=o_cImRzKXOs#action=share
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  • Courtney
    Beginner March 2020
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    We live in Las Vegas and work at the strip casinos. In a matter of 3 days we went from a couple of closures, to most closures, to shut down completely for two weeks and laid off. Wedding is on March 20 in Clearwater, Florida. Had 6 cancellations so far, best man(FH brother) is stationed in Germany and stuck there for 60 days, grandparents decided not to come (no-brainer) and 2 others with health issues declined this week. Besides that we are still moving forward with our wedding. At this point after so many punches to the gut, we are getting married on Friday even if it’s just the two of us and the most extravagant party we ever attended. We can’t live our lives in fear and are all adults capable of making adult decisions on what is best for us. I expect the same of my guests. Going out in public is an inherent risk one assumes as is going to my wedding or anything else outside the home. Keep your chin up March brides.
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  • Karah
    Just Said Yes April 2020
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    I am also getting married in Florida on 4/25/2020 and am freaking out. We are mostly traveling from Indiana to get to Destin.
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  • Michelle
    Just Said Yes June 2020
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    My wedding is scheduled for March 28th and as of right now we are still planning on having the wedding. But the guilt is weighing on me big time! We have started to see people cancel, which I completely understand. Our wedding was small to begin with, but I am just not sure what to do. I have waited a lifetime to have this wedding and I am absolutely heartbroken that this is happening. I can't stop crying, which I know I am not alone.

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  • Jennifer
    Just Said Yes April 2020
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    Same, girl!! Ours is 4/25, too. I’m so worried/stressed/nervous. Most of our family will have to travel....1/2 by plane, 1/2 will be driving. We’re talking with our vendors this week and will reassess next week. This thread definitely helps me feel better, seeing all of these weddings still moving forward make me feel hopeful.
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  • Samantha
    Just Said Yes April 2020
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    I'm getting married in 18 days (April 4th) in NC and I'm still planning on moving forward. Our guest list is under 100 people and I'm anticipating some cancellations. I've put out a post on social media as well, stating that we would of course have no hard feelings for people who want to cancel for obvious reasons. I can't imagine postponing or cancelling. I feel immense guilt, but the time, money, preperation, and anxiety I've felt and spent the past year and a half simply can't be for nothing. I want to marry the man I love with as many friends and family as I can in attendance. My venue/DJ/photographer are all on board with proceeding and have been SUPER supportive. I wish luck and health to ALL the brides with upcoming weddings. Let's pray for our world, our love, and for COVID-19 to be eradicated as soon as possible.
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  • Paulette
    Devoted April 2020
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    This is so messed up but I have faith that it will all work out. Our wedding is April 18th and so far the hall has not made a decision as to what they want to do. We have 5 guests that are from out of town and no one has canceled yet. I am praying that God will hear and answer my prayer to heal the land and make everything ok.

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  • Andy
    Beginner August 2020
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    Hi everyone. So yesterday after our governor and the new updated CDC guidelines were released my FH and I made the decision to postpone. The burden of attempting to host a wedding which would endanger the lives of our older guests and weighed to heavily on my conscious. I’m surprisingly not that upset about postponing, I think I was more upset when I was going to go through with it.


    Now my greatest concern is keeping my family and elderly loved ones safe until we are able to reschedule. Good luck to everyone with your plans, but mostly your health during this time. It’s so bad out there for so many people in the world. We have to all do our part, even if it is a sacrifice, so that we don’t end up in the horrible situation that Italy is in. It’s devastating. ❤️💜
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  • Sarah
    Beginner November 2020
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    We also are in the process of postponing our wedding that was supposed to be March 21st. We are still having a very small, intimate ceremony and will postpone our reception to a later date.

    I was feeling way too guilty to continue on with the reception knowing how many older guests we have.

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  • lalalulu
    Beginner September 2020
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    We live in NYC and our wedding on 3/21 as well in Dallas and we are wanting to postpone because FH's parents are older and at risk. We're afraid of getting infected at the airport/plane and then accidentally infect them. However, my parents have said that if we postponed then they'll most likely not come to the postponed one due to needing to fly internationally back to the US from China (they were self-quarantined for 2 weeks when they arrived a month ago), my mom's insomnia and struggles with jet lag, and just all the time, energy, and money that went into them coming here in the first place. I've been crying non-stop and don't know what to do. I feel like I have to choose between having FH's parents there or my mine.

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  • Tameka
    Beginner August 2020
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    Hey Andy, I dont think you should feel bad at all about not postponing your wedding. I'm pretty sure if they did not feel safe with coming they would not come. I'm kinda in the same situation as you but our wedding isn't until May 9th and we are planning to stick to the date as long as our venue remains open. Enjoy your day
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  • Evelyn
    Dedicated March 2021
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    Hi Andy, Just go with your wedding and enjoy safely!

    Do not cancel!!!

    My wedding is in October 2020 and my SAY YES TO THE DRESS appointment is Saturday March 21, 2020 at Davids Bridal. Is cancelled due to the virus. I know I will find a dress and hope for the best.

    Eve

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  • Michelle
    Expert March 2020
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    We're doing the same! Have a beautiful ceremony!!!
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  • Andy
    Beginner August 2020
    Andy ·
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    We are in a shut down currently, there is no way to have a wedding. We postponed, It was for the best.
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  • Andy
    Beginner August 2020
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    There is no way we’d be able to have our wedding. We are under very strict social distancing guidelines currently, and believe a quarantine is coming any day now. Our decision to postpone was for the best. No way to enjoy a wedding currently. We’re not even allowed to congregate with more than 10pl. This will do the most good for the most people.
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  • Rachel
    Beginner May 2020
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    Andy THANK YOU for being a leader and doing the RIGHT THING for the health of everyone in our country. I so want to be supportive of everyone on here but I just can’t support anyone who is ignoring this situation by not cancelling group plans. Working in healthcare I’m seeing the inside of this pandemic and it’s NOT good. There are not enough supplies in the country to deal with this and no more in the pipeline. The only thing we can do to lessen the severity of this disaster is to stay home to stop the spread.


    Anyone hosting a party right now will be contributing to deaths around the country. It’s honestly a selfish move. Trust me, I know what you’re thinking - it’s my wedding, I’m allowed to be selfish! I also am heartbroken I’m having to cancel/postpone mine - trust me I get it. Do the right thing. I urge you all who plan to continue your wedding plans to THINK this through and consider the actual impact you are directly having on everyone in our country by contributing to the spread of this, and reconsider your decision to hold a social event right now.
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  • Sarah
    Beginner November 2020
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    Thank you! You too!

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  • Samantha
    Rockstar October 2020
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    Thank you for postponing! It’s so important to our economy and collective health to practice social distancing! Businesses will only reopen once the pandemic subsided and you are honestly saving lives by following the parameters issued by the CDC!
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  • Ellen
    Dedicated August 2020
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    The CDC guidance extends until May, please consider doing the right thing and reschedule. It’s hard, we had to, but there’s a reason they put this out.
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  • Ellen
    Dedicated August 2020
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    I cannot applaud this comment enough. No ones wedding is more important than a public health situation.
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