Many Non-Gifting Guests

Let it go. A gift is not required. If someone does choose to give one, etiquette says they have 12 months from the wedding date to do so. But so many say no one should follow etiquette at all in the 21st Century so you can't have it both ways. This is not worth ending a friendship over.

I don't always give gifts when I'm invited.
Most young people don't care about wedding traditions and are generally keeping some and ditching some when they are planning theirs.
Some couples don't even create a registry.So I'm on thenon-giving guests' side on this one.Your feelings are valid and you're definitely not a terrible woman, but don't forget that you invite peole because you love them and you wanted theme to be there (if you didn't invite some because you felt obligated).You don't invite people because you want/need gifts or items put in your registry in the 1st place.

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Why do you keep bumping old threads about guests who didn't give gifts? Just start your own new thread if you have a similar problem. These posts are all dead threads.

We had just under 100 guests and received 20 gifts/cards from individual people. That didn't bother me. What bothered me is that people didn't bother to sign the guest book lol. It's like, ok you didn't bring a gift or card, that's fine, but could you at least leave a message? We had it right next to the reception entrance and people walked past them as they came in, and we got the MC to say twice "please sign the guest book". But we still had a large number of people (about half) not sign it. I think it's just my personality but I would much rather get a message/card rather than a gift, and it would've been great to have everyone's well-wishes in one place in the guest book to look on years to come. But hey maybe if people couldn't be bothered writing in the guest book, then their messages are not worth having anyway. (albeit some people would have genuinely forgotten to).

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People almost never sign the guest book, even when you put it under their noses. Most say they don't know what to write when it's usually just their name

View Quoted Comment Went to a wedding where the planner went around and basically forced us to sign the guest book. Nobody knew what to write. Someone wrote a snarky comment about the terrible guest experience so that was bad

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People sign their names. They don't have to write a message.

Not sure if this has been asked - but did they sent a check or gift later?
We never bring a gift/check to the wedding. If I am getting a gift off the registry I have it shipped to them before the wedding. But usually they gift is money and we send that later.

Don't feel bad. I recently got married and it was a small mostly family that attended and half of them didn't bring a gift or money. not even a card!! I was upset. I didn't have a shower and I never expect alot from anyone. I don't care if I sound selfish or whatever but come-on it's a wedding a celebration and I've always given something even if it was very small. I'm a bit hurt mostly because its our family. It's just not right.

It's just rude not to give a card at a very bare minimum. I don't know what's happened to etiquette or manners. It's customary to give something to honor the couple. I agree totally acceptable to gift at any shower or before the wedding etc. But no gift, no card... very tacky, particularly of the wedding party.

I wouldn't personally be annoyed (I tend to feel awkward and uncomfortable anytime I receive a gift, so I kind of prefer NOT to receive them). However, I would find it odd if many people who attended my wedding did this, as I would be mortified if someone thought I attended their wedding and didn't bring a gift (I usually have double-gifted for showers and weddings too - I didn't realize until very recently that this isn't necessarily an expectation).

I know some people say cards are wasteful and they'd rather not receive them, but I don't feel that way at all. I'm very sentimental, including about little mementos that others might find meaningless - I've saved every card I've received for every occasion as long as I can remember. So a card as a gift is plenty meaningful to me!

As others have said, I would just try not to let it go and not allow it to change your opinion of any of these people. They may have been really financially strained at the time, or maybe giving wedding gifts wasn't a social custom they were raised with, or maybe they were just busy and forgot to pick something up before the wedding (remember traditional etiquette says guests have up to a year to give a gift, so they may be planning to send you something after the fact - we had several guests do this months after our wedding). And I certainly wouldn't address it with anyone, which it doesn't sound like you were planning to.

The right thing to do is get a card and a gift. At the absolute least, get a card. The gift doesn’t need to be much. Very entitled and rude not to gift the couple on such a special day. Class vs. no class.