Making a donation instead of giving out favors?

We are thinking about doing the same. I do not see how spending money on charity would ever be considered rude. If someone is offended is rather not be associate with them

I think people will love it! I would

Making a donation instead of giving out favors is never rude. Putting a card at every place setting to say you have done so may, however, be considered rude. Your guests don't benefit from the donation, so it is not actually a favor to them. And it is none of your guests' business how you spend your money.

Think of it this way: If you had a dinner party, would you put a card at each place saying, "Instead of providing you with dessert, we have made a contribution to the Red Cross"?

I just went to a wedding on sunday where the couple did a donation in everyones name. They also put a card at everyone seat to tell them what they had done. Everyone was very happy with this.

I'd like this better than a small gift I don't want.

I just wouldn't do a favor at all. That's not a big deal at all. However I find it kind of lame to do the whole charity thing as a gift or favor, you can still donate but do it for yourself, not as a favor to someone else. Just my opinion!

We are donating to charities as well, FH chose one and I chose one and we are splitting what we would spend on favors to the charities. One of the chariites gives out complimentary cards stating a donation was made on behalf of so-and-so and we would just make up ones for the other.....although now since I bought my mother a cake pop maker for christmas and saw how easy it was I would love to make those as favors (would only cost $130ish) but my mom always tells me one or the other and i think the money will be better spent as a donation. Love the idea of donations instead of favors!

I Love the idea of donating to a charity in the guests' name! I might have to steal that!!

I love the idea, and I think it is great I agree though place a card at each seat that says, instead of favors, we placed a donation to __________ charity.

Great Idea!

I love the idea in lieu of favors!!

I asked this question a while ago and got a lot of negative feedback. You know your guests. I think the answer of how bout asking your guests to donate instead of giving you a gift is bullshit, I also think I would never be friends with someone who thought giving to a childrens hosptial in their honor was rude.

The thing is you provide your guests with a full dinner, and booze, you provide their entertainment for the night, and if you want you give them a "favor". If you want you can put a card at each place, or you can just put one 8.5 x 11 on your guest book table explaining where you donated and why and that the donation was made in the name of your wedding guests.

The difference between asking guests to give you a donation instead of a gift is a favor typically costs you $2-$10 each. Guests typically give you like $50-$500 each depending on how they are associated to you. No one misses a $4 "favor" the bride and groom might miss getting gifts (that can be used to pay off their gu

Guests huge bar tab.

I am 100% in favor of donations in lieu of "favors" as long as it is a foundation that is widely supported, Cancer, MS, pet rehabs, sick kids hospitals. I am not infavor if you are giving a donation to like a polititian, or some controversial charity, something that supports abortion, or supports pro life, etc.

A friend gave a card at every spot that said what they were doing and allowed guests to pick one of 3 charities and the bride and groom would donate based on percent, if 40% wanted money to go to sick kids 40% of the money they were donating went there. I thought that idea was amazing, but if a family member of yours has alzehimers or something going with that shouldn't be offensive either.

I think you are a good person for spending your money on this instead of a flippin monogramed shot glass or some shit. and I applaud you

I'll be one of the ones to say that I'd rather get nothing than a card saying you donated in my favor. It's a tax write off for YOU, not me, it's a cause YOU support, not one I would choose (unless you asked every guest and donated to each of those charities), so it's not really a "favor." And I also think that to do it at a wedding and put a card at each place setting is kind of bragging about your generosity.

I dunno how much everyone else spent on favors, but I did fortune cookie favors (and got WAY too many) for exactly $68, not an amount I would want to donate as a favor.

I say donate on your own time, with your own money. That said, I'm not going to your wedding, so this is just my opinion.

I think it's a lovely idea! We thought about donating but the costs were adding up and we donate a lot throughout the year. Our guests didnt even notice we had no favors!!

It can be a tax right off for me... but even if you asked guests to donate $4 each they wouldn't get a tax right off, cause you have to donate a certain amount to get one.

IMO the favor is the free booze, you could always make them buy their own drinks and then make a donation of your own (a mighty hefty one in your own name to a charity) insert evil laugh here.

But I think of weddings like adult birthday parties. You come to my party I'll feed you and keep your wine glass full. If you like me you will probably make or buy me a gift. I probably wont give you a gift to take home at all, the favor is an added bonus.

Exactly, the guest doesn't actually get anything. So it's not really a favor.

If you give me nothing at your wedding, I will still be happy, because you fed me and entertained me. That's enough. If you really WANT to give a favor, I'm saying it can be done for well under a $100. If you don't want to do that, then don't give guests a favor and donate on your own time and own dime.

Again, that's my thought, but I know plenty of others who disagree, and that's fine. I'm offering my POV.

If you do charity favors, you should give the guests option of donating to that charity in lieu of buying you a wedding gift.

Edit: I'm being serious, that isn't intended as snarky...I just think you should OR just donate and don't bring it up.

I live in the NYC metro area, and it's been years since the last time I received a "favor" at a wedding. It seems pretty common in this area. I'll be doing a donation at mine - but I always knew I would do that.

I would be delighted to see this at a wedding (and, in general I *hate* "made a donation" gifts-- this would definitely be a HUGE exception)-- great ides!

Our venue is linked to a donation actually. 100% of the fee goes into seeing eye dogs, glasses for the blind in our community and more. So decided to make an additional contribution and join for future volunteer efforts. However - that is for us. I wouldn't tell people on their behalf.

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