Major wedding dress doubts

It doesn't matter if it was your third or your first dress, if you love it, then go with it. If you aren't sure, look around. You are getting into the home stretch. If you find one that you like better, then you need to make sure that you can get it in time (some dress shops take months to get them). Try the dress on again, even if it hasn't been altered. See what you loved about the dress and decide.

Have you tried on your dress since you purchased it? Everyone goes through the doubting stage after purchasing the dress. If you try it on and don't like it, then start looking around maybe you will find something new, maybe you will realize that your dress is the dress but were only having doubt because you didn't try on that many.

I had the same issues you had. I ended up buying two dresses because i thought i had fallen out of love woth the first. but after trying on the dress I originally bought I found out I still loved the dress just as much as the second dress I bought. So I say all of this to say, try your dress on again complete with veil and all wedding accessories to see if you still love it. Chances are you will. I had no luck selling my first dress so I just turned it into a reception dress!!!

Edited: Stupid iPhone, sent message before I finished

Marlene, I feel your pain. I had the exact same feeling, and IMO if you are having that feeling, and you have seen a dress online that you love and want to try on, then should. I just went through the same thing. Luckily I still had the tags on my dress and since I had never worn it, David's Bridal allowed me to exchange it for in-store credit towards the purchase of the new dress I chose, and then I paid the difference. I tried to sell my dress on craigslist before that and no one was interested. I think you should try to see if the store will take it back because they actually gave me the amount that I paid for it. They really went above and beyond to make me happy, and now I have a dress that I have no doubts about at all. Just make sure you go soon if you are going to do it because alterations might take a little bit.

Darn double post....sorry!

I think every bride doubts the dress. Do yourself up with your jewelry, hair, make-up and veil. Have someone take pictures and study them. If you are still not happy, go shopping again. Good luck!

Maybe the reason you're having doubts is because it hasn't been altered yet. That's what happened to me. I was in the dress shop looking for a second dress when I started talking to the in-house alterations lady When she learned that I already had a dress she insisted that I let her see the dress before I bought a new one. She convinced me that with a little alteration all my doubts about the dress would be resolved. AND SHE WAS RIGHT! I just tried my dress on again yesterday with my BM and all my assessories and I LOVE it. I am so glad I didn't blow my budget on a second dress.

I had doubts about mine and then got it altered. Doubts gone!! I also bought mine really quick and I think that's where my doubts came from.

Thanks everyone for all your comments. They've made me feel much less like Crazy Bride lol. It's good to hear that everyone has gone through similar feelings. I think it's hard when you buy early, you don't get the reaction you wanted from your mom (happened) and when there's So Much Pressure to buy something perfect because really, when else are you going to wear a wedding dress again? Thanks ladies

Marlene, i went through the SAME thing! bought the dress fast at the first shop. then started panicking after. i literally lost sleep a few nights over it.

i kept seeing other stuff on tv and in pictures and had to remind myself the styles i was orgininally drawn to (and keep being drawn to) just didn't flatter me, and the one i chose has the elements i wanted but fits me like a glove and suits my body.

the turning points for me, where i finally stopped doubting my choice, were when i saw it with the gorgeous sparkly sash i splurged on, and then tried it all on right after my hair trial, with the veil and sash.

had my fitting on friday and i'm in love.

Do you have the accesories with the dress? that is what did it for me. Like the other brides have said, it doesnt matter what number dress it is that you are trying on, if you love it , you love it. I had a similar situation. I actualy asked my futue sister-in laws to meet me at DB to pick t up and there were a couple of other people who hadnt see it yet. I wanted approval, it was important that everyone loved it. They did. When my dad saw me in it, he became very emotional. As Brides, we want to pease everyone. As long as you love it and feel good in it. Try it on with your accesories, that part is when I broke down.

I know you wanted your mom to love it - but we each have our own ideas of what makes the perfect gown. Go back and try it on again by yourself. If you look into the mirror and have a big smile on your face then you know!

And I agree with everyone that you should try it on with jewelry, veil, the whole 9 yards as that what takes a good dress to great many times!

So I talked to my mom about my doubts and now feel a million times worse. She confessed she never really "loved" it and was surprised I was so persistent on getting it. Now I feel like it can't possibly be right at all. My wedding is in 3 1/2 months and I don't have the money to buy another dress if I can't unload this one. I'm not even sure if that's enough time for one to come in and be altered (if I were to find another one) but I don't want to feel like I'm getting married in the WRONG dress!! I don't know what's worse, I just feel awful now. ;/

Moms and daughters don't always agree, and she really doesn't have to love it, you do. what was it about the dress you liked when you first tried it on? what do you think its missing? do you have any pictures of you in it? the ladies here are always ready and willing to tell you their honest opinions

Oh lady...I understand! I had 5 months to plan and found a gorgeous couture gown that I could purchase the sample gown and get for 50% off! I was worried it wouldn't be there later if I decided to come back...so I bought it. It was #6 of 8 I tried on at my first boutique .... I had 1 other appointment scheduled later that day and ended up canceling it. I didn't go to any other store or try on any other dresses. I cannot begin to tell you how many times I doubted my decision...but on the wedding day...after the gown had been altered to fit me perfectly and I had my hair and makeup done...I didn't ever want to take it off...I ended up falling in love with my gown...but not after I seconded guessed myself 20+ times.

As a side note, I never got the "IT" feeling with my gown either...I was seriously worried. I'm glad I never sold my gown and tried to get a new one...there was a reason I bought it in the first place...just as there is a reason you bought yours

@ Marlene - I totally understand valuing your mom's opinion....but in this case, it's not really the time to let her influence your decision making. Reason being - YOU are the one who will be wearing the dress, NOT HER. If you have decided for sure that this is not the dress for you, then that's one thing. I can only speak for myself, but I could never fathom breaking my wedding budget to buy another dress because of how my mother (who isn't wearing the dress I am) felt about it. I would definetely take the advice the ladies mentioned above and try the dress on again - if alterations are needed, get them and bring all of your accessories with you as well and remind yourself why it was that you fell in love with the dress the first time.

And honestly, even if your mom doesn't think you are wearing the dress that SHE invisions you in, it would be a fairly safe bet that she is going to be absolutely THRILLED to see you, her beautiful daughter, in whichever dress you decide to go with

TinaBoBina....As an MOB, well said. Your mother's opinion doesn't count. No matter what you wear, she is going to love you in it on your day of. I wanted Cate to wear a dress SHE loved, not something I LOVED. I wanted her to be happy. Sometimes I think with all of these wedding shows and forums, our expectation level is raised. Not everyone is going to hear bells and whistles when they try on a gown.

Good luck!

So I tried on my dress again and I have to say....

it's rather stunning.

I know why I fell in love with it to begin with: I've never seen anything like it before. It's elegant. It's glamorous yet understated. It's very unique.

Yes, I could have picked a dress with more "poof". I love those and my mom does too, pretty sure that's what she wanted to see...but there's just something different about this one. All the other dresses I tried on I felt like I had seen before. If I shop around, of course I might find something I like better, but doesn't that go for any big purchase? I'm worried it won't photograph well, or that my fiance may expect something a little more wedding-ish. I think that's what's "missing" is that big dramatic bridal feel that my mom wanted to see... but there's no disputing that it's still a gorgeous gown.

You know...I think it sounds like you have the right dress. It seems like you love the uniqueness of it and what your mom, and possibly you, were looking for was the kind of dress that you have seen over and over. Clearly you love the something different about this dress and you might not get that with the "big dramatic bridal feel."

I felt the same way when I bought my dress back in February ( the second one I tried on, only tried one more on after to make sure i really loved it as much as I thought I did, and didn't shop any more after). FH and I moved out to CA from NC and I didn't have the option to have second guesses. I walked past a storefront and fell in LOVE with a dress inside, and ended up crying walking back to my car with FH because I HATED my dress in comparison to the one I had just seen. Well it just got shipped out here for my fitting, and when I put it on again, I fell in love with it and how I felt in it all over again. Try it on, see how you feel, and if you don't feel like a happy, in-love and beautiful bride in it, then shop until you find "the one!"