Maid of honor disaster

Help!
my maid of honor has done a bad job .. my bridesmaids have done more then her ... they’ve been complaining about her and now I finally see it. She lives out of state.. wanted to come visit me in July but said it was this weekend or my bridal shower. And even said if I don’t come to your bridal shower your bridesmaids will be pissed. There already annoyed with her... my mother in law did my bridal shower is constantly asking if my maid of honor is coming so I texted her and she said I thought I was known that I wasn’t coming. I’m just wondering if I should take her out of maid of honor and just a bridesmaid.... that’s what my mom is saying.. I need help