Maid of honor disaster

View Quoted Comment All of this.
Also, to say somebody isn't prioritizing YOUR wedding is a little bridezilla. Of course it's not a priority, they have their own lives to live!

Totally agree ... when they haven’t done anything... haven’t responded to the wedding that was due two weeks ago but I’m a Bridzilla because my maid of honor has done nothing and my bridesmaids have and I was asking for help

Thank you!

Thank you.. I feel like no one understands even for months when you give her the befit of the doubt

Totally understand how your feeling it sucks and you can only do so much.. and PEOPLE can only understand so much

Thank you!

Hi, I personally didn't have this issue but I was my sister's Jr maid of honor and saw how being out-of-state can affect someone doing as good of a job as others that are right by you. It's hard for someone who doesn't know your area to do things like planning a bachelorette or bridal party when they're unsure what might be closest to you and what place you might prefer. I would suggest talking to her about you concerns first then making a decision from there.

I thank you for your reply! It wasn’t mean! I totally get that she is a nurse and I’m school but she begged me to come visit in July and I said sure and she said never mind it was this or the bridal shower which I get another flight and she told me no and said I should of expected it that’s why I’m in shock the only reason I was asking again if she was coming because my mother I. Law threw my bridal shower because she couldn’t and she keeps asking me if my moh can come

I agree I’m letting it go but it is what it is

Thank you that was so kind I appreciate it!

She’s someone you love, why are you letting your bridesmaids complain and bash her? You’re surrounded by negative energy, no wonder it’s affecting your outlook.
Shut it down. If YOU feel hurt, that’s one thing. Stop listening to what they want or what they’re mad about, it isn’t helping. It’s only adding to your stress and it’s an immature way to for them to deal with the situation.

MoH is from out of state, she doesn’t have unlimited time or money to spend on every wedding related thing. She’s going to be at your wedding, standing up for you and honoring your relationship. This is what the title is for!

Maybe she isn’t answering because she’s caught on to your bridesmaids talking about her.

Thank you that was something I needed to hear/see

This is a relationship ending move. If you ‘demote’ or remove her.. it’s likely the end of your relationship with her

weddings are stressful and expensive for all parties involved. Bridal party members are responsible for 2 things- buying the appropriate attire and showing up on time the day of the wedding. Everything else is *extra*.

Thank you ... I totally agree

If you decide to demote her, do it in a way that saves her pride. Tell her you’ve realized how hard it is for her to participate when she lives so far away. Tell her you want her in the wedding but without all of that stress, so you are going to ask a local friend to take over the MOH duties. You want her to be able to come and enjoy the wedding as a BM.

That is awesome thank! That wasn’t honestly well said and definitely in a way not to upset her!! Thank you so much!

Thank you that was well said I agree with you on like 90% yah she still to this day after more than 5 times me telling her to respond to me or my bridesmaids asking for help from her but I guess she’s just busy and has a life I mean I have bridesmaids with 3 kids jobs a husband and what not so that’s why I get frustrated with her but I just gotta let her do her thing my other bridesmaids will help and I just know they will be there for me thank you!!

View Quoted Comment Totally agree with goin Danielle! My MOH is a broke college student who live across the state and wasn’t able to make it for a lot of my wedding related events. She hasn’t been here to help me plan and put centerpieces together but that is not what she is for. Sure, her help would be nice but I picked her because she is my closest friend. Not my wedding assistant.

That was such a beautiful response that made me totally sit back and understand and agree

Nothing happened she just decided not to come in July or August for my shower